Ok, sappy mode on:
I feel like I've actually gotten quite good at explaining the depths and severity of UC over the last few years of my life.
I like to think that everyone you date has one or two 'catches' that you'll have to come to terms with. In exchange for a girlfriend caring about me and sticking through the rough bits, I make sure that UC the BIG 'catch' to our relationship.
I don't bother going on second or third dates with girls I don't think have a chance of being understanding and caring. I don't blame the ones that aren't though--UC is a big thing to deal with, from either side of the relationship, and I've had to change a few things about myself to make me the news easier to 'deal with' when I bring it up. I guess it's one thing to say "I've got UC but am otherwise a swell guy". It's another to say "I've got UC and a drinking problem. My diet consists of cherry Cola and M&Ms and I dress up as furry anime characters on weekends."
I'm not sure when it started, but I slowly became more honest, more open minded, less 'stressed out', less argumentative, less critical, more positive, and more calm. I treat the significant other with as much love/caring as I can and, and I promise not to be defeatist (much), I don't get angry much, if at all. I try to be aware of my girlfriend's feelings as much as possible. I don't forget important dates. I eat as healthy as I can and try and keep in as good as shape as I can. I exercise and I smile more than I did before I got UC, even if I'm sick and have to do it alone (exercising, not smiling). I tell them up front about my stomach and what it means to live with this disease. I think most of all I try be grateful--it's not easy and it takes a certain kind of person to 'shrug off' UC as a dating issue, but the girls ARE out there, and what's cool about the whole situation is that, usually it's a reciprocative thing--the better I try and be in a relationship, the better relationships I find myself in.
In short, I think I've made myself into a darn good person to date, in spite of UC, or sometimes I think, because of it.
Yeah,in between relationships I do feel lonely and the severity of 'living with UC' really does weigh heavy. But everyone else out there has a 'catch' too, and it really does go both ways. Since I've gotten sick I've been in some of the best relationships of my life.
<Ok, sappy mode off. UC sucks.>