TigerB, the best thing that you can do in this situation is to:
First, (and you've already kinda done it) is to vent your frustraitions to someone (other than your husband). It is important to get the frustrations out in an environment that wont cause more strain.
Second, set aside some time and really think about what he is going through, try to invision his side of things.
Third, talk with him about what you invisioned and what his comments make you feel like. I put emphisis on "with" because all too often we talk "to" somebody with little thought of their input especially when we are upset. (I'm not saying you do that just that it is a common thing that we as people tend to do.)
Fourth, make sure that he knows that even though his comments hurt you that you forgive him and love him. Sometimes us guys need to be told that just like you ladies. We may not always show it on the outside but when our lady tells us that she loves us nothing makes us feel better.
Of course that is just my opinion. Trust me I don't think you're wrong for feeling upset even angry about his comments, but I think the best thing to do is look at things from his point of view and then talk with him about it.