ComedyDork, I am sorry you are not feeling well. Your parents probably only have the best intentions. We want the best for our kids. Amazing that you are completing college in 2 years! Did you take alot of AP classes in high school? You definitely don't sound like someone who is trying to use UC as an excuse to get out of doing things.
I know that when Bratcat is in a flare, it affects her in the morning (and sometimes afternoon) but generally, she "seems OK" by the late afternoon/evening. Many times she has gone out towards the end of the day (to a meeting, work, playing in a concert, etc) even though she was too sick to go to school that day. I am sure there are several people who see her in the evening and can't understand how sick she really is.
I think, most important, is for you to take care of yourself right now. If that means not working this summer, whether full-time or maybe not at all (and you can afford it), then give yourself the chance to heal.
Have your parents gone with you to the doctor appointments? Have they read up or visited this forum to learn about UC? I know there are times that we push Bratcat to "suck it up" and get through the day (or whatever is going on). But generally that is when she is getting better but has that fear of how she might feel during the day. But when she is truly in a flare, I can't imagine her doing anything!
She will probably have surgery at the end of June/beginning of July. She will have to miss even more work (she started a month before her first flare and has had 3 flares in 1-1/2 years). Hopefully they will work with her as they have in the past. She loves the job. But if they had to replace her, that would be OK with us. Her health is most important. Hopefully this surgery (and the summer to recuperate and adjust) will make her healthy enough to have a wonderful senior year.
When I read your this post tonight, the words to a song popped into my head but I couldn't remember the exact lyrics or the song name. It was on my mind for hours until I remembered that it was "James" by Billy Joel. The lyrics I was trying to remember were "Do what's good for you, or you're not good for anybody". Please make yourself your first priority.
--Mom of bratcat (17 years old)--
Daughter bratcat was diagnosed with pancolitis October 2006
Asacol - 4 pills/3Xday, 2 tabs 6-mp/1.5 tabs 6-mp every other day, 35 mg prednisone, Remicade
11/14/06 - started prednisone; 1/28/07 - finished prednisone!
3/3/07 - began to taper off hydrocortisone sloowwly! Summer 2007 - slowly began tapering Rowasa. 9/07 -- flaring? Nightly Rowasa. 9/21/07 -- added hydrocortisone enemas. 9/30/07--added prednisone. 10/31--started 6-mp, stopped the enemas. Started lowering prednisone. 3/08-another flare!