How do you answer the question, "How are you?"

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julee70
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   Posted 5/31/2008 7:57 PM (GMT -6)   
I've had a particularly rough week with UC and I've found that every time someone asks me how I am, I have to keep myself from saying, "Well, to be honest, I'm awful." I realized that some people who know I'm sick ask me how I am but they probably don't really want the answer. So I usually say that I'm OK. I'm sure it doesn't sound very convincing when I'm asked right after I've run to the bathroom for the 5th time that day.

How do other people deal with this question that gets asked 100 times a day? What do you say at work? What do you say to your friends?
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UC for the last ten years
Current Meds: 6MP since 2006, Cortifoam
Past Meds: You name it; I've tried it. (Asacol, Colazol, Pentasa, DiPentum, Rowasa, Canasa, Cortenema, sulfasalazine)
5ASA drugs don't work for me. Canasa seems to make me worse.
Alternative treatments I have had success with: Acupuncture, Hypnotherapy


pb4
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   Posted 5/31/2008 8:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I always say, "could be better, could be worse"...it seems to hit the nail on the head with honesty and going into further detail seems un-necessary, of course people who know that I have IBD (as well as IBS) understand fully what I mean.

:)
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Severin
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   Posted 5/31/2008 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Ok - HealingWell keeps replacing my text for me with the word crap... I have no idea whats wrong with it today. So when you see the word crap, its probably not the word I actually posted! grrrrrrr

Anyway - my current response to people is "Crappy but happy", except its not crappy because HealingWell decided that Crappy was the word of the day.

I've tried editing this post 4 times, so I give up.
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Post Edited (Severin) : 5/31/2008 7:23:21 PM (GMT-6)


sukay
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   Posted 5/31/2008 8:22 PM (GMT -6)   

bookworm21
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   Posted 5/31/2008 8:33 PM (GMT -6)   
"I'm okay" or "I'm fine"
If it's a friend, I might be a little more honest and say, "Oh, I'm not feeling too well, but it could be worse."
Female, Age 19, Dx w/ UC August 2007
Seasonal allergies
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roxZ
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   Posted 5/31/2008 8:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I almost always say good, how are you doing. Even if it isn't true. I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. Like ComedyDork I would be more honest with an understanding friend or family member.
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dx with ulcerative colitis at age 16
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pb4
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   Posted 5/31/2008 9:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Severin said...
Ok - HealingWell keeps replacing my text for me with the word crap... I have no idea whats wrong with it today. So when you see the word crap, its probably not the word I actually posted! grrrrrrr

Anyway - my current response to people is "Crappy but happy", except its not crappy because HealingWell decided that Crappy was the word of the day.

I've tried editing this post 4 times, so I give up.

It's not just today, it automatically does that with "certain" words to keep HW "kid friendly".
 
But don't worry, same "crap", different pile :)
My bum is broken....there's a big crack down the middle of it!  LOL  :)


potty girl
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   Posted 5/31/2008 9:26 PM (GMT -6)   
today good, tomorrow is anyones guess.
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dakotagirl
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   Posted 5/31/2008 9:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually respond with "still kickin' ". It gets some weird looks... I also use the "been better, been worse" line. If it's a good friend who understands I will say if I'm having a crappy day.
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jujub
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   Posted 5/31/2008 10:55 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually just say "fine" or "great, thanks." If it's a bad day and I know people can tell, I'll just say "Today's a little difficult. How are you?"

Most people don't really want to know, or don't want details. "How are you" I see as just a courtesy, so I respond accordingly. People who know me and know about my issues will usually say something like "You don't feel very good today, do you?" Then I answer honestly but briefly.
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quincy
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   Posted 5/31/2008 11:02 PM (GMT -6)   
hmm, Alright!

Pretty good!

Still functioning!

Fair-to middlin'!

Good, actually!

Not Bad!

hmmm...OK!
 
Then I change the subject to ask how they are....because most people actually don't want to hear anyway...especially the ones I KNOW who would rather talk about themselves.
 
If it's someone close, I'll say I'm having a bad day. I don't dwell usually...but I'll be honest. If I'm feeling good...EVERYONE WILL KNOW because I tend to be a tad hyper.

quincy


*Heather*Status: mini flare Dec 28... tapered to every 4th night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~5ASA: Asacol (6 daily) + Salofalk enemas (increase for flares tapered to maintenance)
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed
~vitamins/minerals/supplements 
~Probiotic 3(Natural Factors Protec) bedtime + 1 (Primadophilus Reuteri) occasionally
~multi-digestive enzymes as needed ....zymactive 3 - 5x daily
~Ranitidine,Pariet (reflux) Effexor XR 75mg;  Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS"  worth it !!!

Post Edited (quincy) : 5/31/2008 10:06:00 PM (GMT-6)


Dr-A
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   Posted 5/31/2008 11:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Great!

Fantastic!

Doing Well!

Good!

Fine as a froghair split four ways.

Any better I'd be dancing!



I usually feel decent but with patients coming in, the last thing they wanna hear is my problems, lol. "Why I feel like someone is stirring my guts with a rusty fork, had to poop 4 times, and just let out a little gas.... Hope that doesn't smell!"
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richb
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   Posted 6/1/2008 12:12 AM (GMT -6)   
I usually use a few different ones depending on my mood (prednisone and whatnot):

Every day I put two feet on the ground is a good day(I get some wierd looks for that one, but that just means that the recipient doesn't really get it)

"I've been worse, I've been better," usually works well.

My personal favorite is "strikes and gutters" which I have to give credit to The Big Lebowski for. People usually don't get it, but it at least makes me laugh a little to myself.

Either way, most people don't really want to hear how you are feeling. You can tell the ones that do because they are probably those who are nearest and dearest to you.
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princesscolon
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   Posted 6/1/2008 12:22 AM (GMT -6)   
When I am sick I usually say "barely alive," I don't think that goes over too well though... When I am feeling decent i say better or good or ok. Sorry you have had a rough week.
Diagnosed with Left-sided UC in 1995 at age 15, Prednisone, Rowasa & Hydrocort. Enemas, Proctofoam, Sulfasalazine, Asacol, Probiotics, Fish Oil, Aloe Juice, Canasa, Enotcort, Colazol, Anamantle, Remicade, etc... had 1 inch deep rectal ulcer 2004, put on Remicade, August 2007:Increased Remicade dosage-700mg every 6 weeks,diagnosed w/ Psoriatic Arthritis & Fibromyalgia Current meds: Clorazepate, Lomotil,  Tylenol pm, Lyrica started 1/17/08,  Humira started 4/4/08


julee70
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   Posted 6/1/2008 2:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I've enjoyed reading everyone's responses. It's funny that other people say the "been better/been worse" response, which I used to use a lot. Also, "hanging in" is another I've used.

My recent problem is that one of my siblings asks me "how are you feeling" but then really doesn't care to listen. I'd prefer she ask "How are things?" so that I can just assume she wants to hear what is going on in my daily life. Asking about how I am feeling seems to imply that she wants to know. But clearly, she really doesn't and is bored with even my really brief answer of "not well but I'm dealing with it."

Have you ever had a day when you feel great and you think, "Wow, if this is how other people feel all the time then their lives should be a piece of cake!"? I know it's a stupid thing to think, but sometimes I get so excited when I can spend a whole day out of the house just doing errands. And then I realize that most people leave their homes all the time without worry. Maybe, just maybe, when people ask "How are you?" I want to respond in a way that reminds them that they should appreciate feeling well. But I know that the question is just a mindless courtesy and no one wants a big life lesson in the answer! :)
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UC for the last ten years
Current Meds: 6MP since 2006, Cortifoam
Past Meds: You name it; I've tried it. (Asacol, Colazol, Pentasa, DiPentum, Rowasa, Canasa, Cortenema, sulfasalazine)
5ASA drugs don't work for me. Canasa seems to make me worse.
Alternative treatments I have had success with: Acupuncture, Hypnotherapy


Eva Lou
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   Posted 6/1/2008 7:13 AM (GMT -6)   
I say "Fine, thanks!" all the time...unless I'm in the hospital or right out of it, that's my standard response. Nobody really wants to know, it's just a politeness. Even when I see my GI I say "Doing ok"- he always chuckles because that's all I say...then I go on to describe symptoms that aren't in fact, doing ok!

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Red_34
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   Posted 6/1/2008 7:33 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree that when someone asks how are you, it's just a common courtesy. No one really wants an honest answer. Unless its a friend and they ask how you are in which they really mean it. For strangers or acquaintances I just say Hangin' in there and for friends I usually just say that I've had better days. Then if they want to know more then I will tell them.
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princesscolon
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   Posted 6/1/2008 8:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Very true, Red. I wouldn't say certain things to someone I didn't know well, lol. My main quick response to acquaintances is ok, and how are you? But I would like to respond, "I have an inch deep bleeding hole in my rectum, how do you think I am?!?!" LOL. I don't think the cashier at Walmart or the librarian would like to hear that, though.. :P
Diagnosed with Left-sided UC in 1995 at age 15, Prednisone, Rowasa & Hydrocort. Enemas, Proctofoam, Sulfasalazine, Asacol, Probiotics, Fish Oil, Aloe Juice, Canasa, Enotcort, Colazol, Anamantle, Remicade, etc... had 1 inch deep rectal ulcer 2004, put on Remicade, August 2007:Increased Remicade dosage-700mg every 6 weeks,diagnosed w/ Psoriatic Arthritis & Fibromyalgia Current meds: Clorazepate, Lomotil,  Tylenol pm, Lyrica started 1/17/08,  Humira started 4/4/08


bookworm21
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   Posted 6/1/2008 9:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Even though I may be a little more honest w/ my friends, they don't know that I have UC--they just know that I've been sick a lot. So I'm not sure what they think of it.
If I've had a bad day and I'm feeling cranky, I may answer to my parents something like "Um, I have a chronic disease that makes me go to the bathroom 500 times. How do you think I'm feeling?????" Maybe not the best answer, but sometimes I can't help it!
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Seasonal allergies
9 Asacol/day, 1000 mg Canasa, Proctofoam, Rifaximin 2/day
Digestive Advantage (Crohn's & Colitis) 3 pills/day, 1 Florastor/day
1 DanActive/day


lambkins
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   Posted 6/1/2008 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
All very true I just say not to bad or ok thanks nobody really want to know,i do tell the dog though she is very understanding and when im feeling bad lays with me looking sad.Bet she thinking why don't you shut up and let me sleep LOL.
  
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NuffinButtTrouble
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   Posted 6/1/2008 5:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually say something like, "can't complain" or "not bad, but I've been better"
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quincy
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   Posted 6/1/2008 5:54 PM (GMT -6)   
julee70 said...

My recent problem is that one of my siblings asks me "how are you feeling" but then really doesn't care to listen. I'd prefer she ask "How are things?" so that I can just assume she wants to hear what is going on in my daily life. Asking about how I am feeling seems to imply that she wants to know. But clearly, she really doesn't and is bored with even my really brief answer of "not well but I'm dealing with it."
How I would answer that one (and have with some) is...."Now, which answer would you prefer to hear?"
or
"Do you really care to hear the truth? Otherwise, I'm fine...how are you?"
 
You can't force people to give a crap.
 
q
 
 
*Heather*Status: mini flare Dec 28... tapered to every 4th night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~5ASA: Asacol (6 daily) + Salofalk enemas (increase for flares tapered to maintenance)
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed
~vitamins/minerals/supplements 
~Probiotic 3(Natural Factors Protec) bedtime + 1 (Primadophilus Reuteri) occasionally
~multi-digestive enzymes as needed ....zymactive 3 - 5x daily
~Ranitidine,Pariet (reflux) Effexor XR 75mg;  Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS"  worth it !!!


summerstorm
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   Posted 6/1/2008 7:00 PM (GMT -6)   
well proper etiquette states that you should always answer that question with "fine thank you, and you?" lol
that's always how i would answer when i was still sick. Anyone who really needed to know how i actually was would be a close friend and they would know i wasn't good anyway.
but i love some of ya'lls answers!

Meesh
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   Posted 6/1/2008 7:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I just say "Fine." Nobody really wants to know. As I used to tell my students when I was teaching ESL overseas, "How are you?" really just means "Hello" and the only acceptable answers are "Fine" or "OK" and people hardly even stick around long enough for you to get that out after they say
How are you?"
Meesh
Diagnosed UC April 27, 2006; mild arthritis in lower back, dx'd May 2008
8 Remicade infusions: 7/21/07; 8/18/07; 10/13/07; 12/15/97; 1/26/08; 3/8/08; 4/19/08; 5/24/08
Current meds & supplements: Lialda, 4 tabs in the morning; Protonix; Lexipro 10 mg; Xanax as needed; Tramadol as needed for arthritis pain; multivitamin w/folate; Culturelle; Fish oil capsules, calcium chews and/or Tums; Past meds: Prednisone 4/06-4/08; Entocourt EC; Rowesa; Asacol; Colazal; Venofer (iron) injections Dec '07; Imuran (extremely bad reaction 2/07)


1s
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   Posted 6/1/2008 9:36 PM (GMT -6)   
i cant really keep a straight face when asked how im feeling haha but if im really feeling good i may say i feel human or alive again
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