Hi JrNYC. I'm kinda in the same boat as you, except my reason for surgery would be the failure of all meds. I'm scared too--I mean, it's surgery! Who wouldn't be scared???
If reading jpouch.org makes you more nervous, don't read it so much. Just be aware of the possible complications and not read into the details of specific people--that's what I plan on doing b/c I freak out easily and worry too much. And also, as suebear said, keep in mind that the people who post on the website are the ones having the problems. Heck, if I was in remission, I wouldn't be sitting in front of my computer. Also, on leemega's website, there is one entry that talks about deciding on surgery and there are links to the jpouch site--I found these very encouraging b/c many people said they were glad that they had surgery and wish they would have done it earlier. Jpouch has a 90% success rate and the risk of complications depends on how healthy/sick you are.
It definitely wouldn't hurt to get a second opinion. Keep us updated!
Female, Age 19, Dx w/ UC August 2007
9 Asacol, Rowasa, 1000 mg Canasa, Proctofoam, Rifaximin 2/day
Digestive Advantage (Crohn's & Colitis), 1 Florastor, 50 mg 6MP,1 Primadophilus reuteri, 1 DanActive, Remicade (2nd infusion 06/26/08), 2.4 g Lialda