Yes i looked on there and it was helpful but then you start reading about the things that can go wrong and im afraid i'll never be able to live a "normal" life. This is so unfair.
I highlighted the key word in your statement. Don't freak out about
surgery it is going to allow you to continue to live. Sure there will be adjustments but there were with the UC, right? Normal, what is the definition of normal? After you recover there will be no outward trace of any problems so if you look "normal" now then you should look "normal" when you have completely recovered.
As far as things going wrong, if you mean fatally I haven't seen any numbers to suggest that is even a remote possibility. As far as the j-pouch failing and going back to an ileostomy (I am assuming you have UC and the surgery would be j-pouch to remove the entire colon) the actual numbers are less then 10% and in my opinion an ileostomy isn't all that bad when compared to UC. I like mine so much I will probably opt to make it permanent intead of going through with the j-pouch. Life, disease free with no worries of colon cancer, is awesome and I am not the "abnormal" one pooing in my pants in public no more, taking 35 pills a day or knowing all the restrooms in town and which ones are the best.
Just like everyone else has said, don't look at this as the end of the world and unfair. Look at this as regaining your life, being able to wipe the slate clean or something along those lines. So what if you don't have your colon, the only people that will know are the ones you tell. If you end up with a permanent ostomy so what, again the only people who will know are the ones you tell.