kinda OT- changing jobs?

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   Posted 7/2/2008 6:17 AM (GMT -6)   
First off- I'm feeling better! Yesterday and so far today, anyway. The Asacol may be working! I may have stopped bleeding! Hooray! We'll see at my colonoscopy next week. I hope so, because I don't want to go on Remicade.
Anyway, I got really upset yesterday at work. My boss usurped me about something ethical. I'm not comfortable doing what she asked me to do. So, I started looking for another job. I found a really interesting one with a different department at the same place I'm working now. So, I applied.  My bosses aren't going to like this. I recently told them that I planned to stay for at least another year. That changed yesterday. Well, I'm worried that they'll be p1$$ed and won't give me a good recommendation after working with them for almost 6 years. Also, I'm worried that they'll imply that I take a lot of sick days or something about my UC. (All in an effort to keep me working for them, which is a pretty lousy thing to do. I don't plan to leave them high and dry.) If I'm really going into remission, I may be able to handle that and tell the interviewer that I had a health concern, but that's resolved/managed now. But, if I'm still sick, I'm afraid that I won't get the job (that pays more and is closer to my house- I could ride my bike there!) I think I'm ready for a change. Also, this is stressful and I wonder if it'll throw me back into a flarre. Any thoughts?
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probably pancolitis
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   Posted 7/2/2008 10:52 AM (GMT -6)   
I think you should go for it. There are no loyalties in employment anymore. You have to just look out for yourself. By law, they can only give facts (and very limited ones at that) when providing references. If the new place asks about sick time I'm sure you will find the right words to explain it. Plus, if your current employer hears you are looking for a new job, they may even treat you better. It's a tough call. I'd make a list of all the pros and cons and go from there. Every few years I go look for a job. Sometimes I accept an offer, sometimes I decide to stay put. To me, keeping my resume and interview skills are always a good thing.

If your current employer finds out that you have applied elsewhere, all you have to say is that you have no clear plan of leaving, but it seemed like an opportunity worth investigating and leave it at that.

By nature I am a really negative, paranoid person and I always used to think that my boss would treat me poorly (or fire me!) if s/he found out I was looking elsewhere. But they never did. I think they have their own crap to worry about.

So again, write down the pros and cons and take it from there.
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   Posted 7/2/2008 10:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Your current managers will certainly hear that you've applied, since it's the same company. As an employee and as a manager, I've always found it works best if they hear it from you first. Explain to them that the new position is a great career move for you. You feel that they've helped you advance to the point that you're ready for a new challenge, and you hope you'll have their support in this. You love your job but are ready to take what you know to a new level to help the company achieve its goals. Blah, blah.

A conversation like that can help you get a better reference and help prevent paybacks if you don't end up getting the new job and have to stay where you are for a while. Good luck!
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   Posted 7/2/2008 11:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the advice. I really like what you both suggested. I work for a University doing research, so my bosses are faculty with research grants. The other position is the same as what i'm doing now, except a different department with a different study. I think I'm going to wait to see if I get an interview and see how that goes before mentioning anything. There's no sense ruffling feathers for nothing.

Judy, I feel like cutting and pasting what you wrote onto an index card to practice! (without the blah, blah) And I like NMcP's suggestion about an opportunity worth investigating.

When I spoke to a friend who works with me, it seems more likely that they'll give me a hard time, but would give an official good reference. After all, the whole reason I'm worried is because I think they want me to stay!
Tressa 35 (F)
probably pancolitis
Colazal 3X3/day, Lialda upped to 4/day,Phosphatidylcholine 4 (420 mg capsules) once/day
Colazal 3X3/day (not generic)
Rowasa & Canasa as needed
Asacol 12/day

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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 7/2/2008 11:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Try not to worry. I think you should try to get the new job. Tell them you are concerned about them contacting your current employer in case you don;t get the job, it may cause addeed stress. Maybe they could just check references if they do choosed you. I don't know. Stress will cause flares, so try to stay calm, it will work out. It's not worth your health to panic. Good for you for not giving in to your bosses unethical practices. You are doing what is right. Good luck and take care, Bellski
Lori (Bellski)-age 43 from Illinois
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   Posted 7/2/2008 12:26 PM (GMT -6)   


   Just read your thread you could take advice from the Disability Discrimanation Act in response to the hassle your having at work.Too much stress could make you ill and you dont want that so get in touch with your local DDA centre and have a chat.Hope this helps.xx

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