As long as you remember that it is indeed a long recovery (about a year) you, your wife, and your daughter will be fine. Once her jpouch is actually connected there might be some moments where you all question whether or not you made the right decision. Just remember it takes a while for the jpouch to learn to behave like a colon. There will be good days and bad days but measure improvement in periods of weeks, not days.
dx proctitis in 1987
dx UC in 1991, was stable until 1998
1998 started prednisone, asacol, pentasa, nortriptylene, ativan, 6MP, rowasa enemas and suppositories, hydrocortisone enemas, tried the SCD diet, being a vegetarian, omega 3s, flax, pranic healing, yoga, acupuncture, probiotics
2000 lost all my B-12 stores and became anemic
2001 opted for j-pouch surgery- now living life med-free