Sweetmelody, you can't control your UC. Sooner or later, you'll find a treatment that works for you, but you're still likely to have flares from time to time even with your best combination of medications. Being sick and short of funds is a big stressor for you.
Your husband can control his response to your condition. It's much harder to be understanding and supportive than it is to blame, and he's unfortunately chosen the easy way out. His stressor is money - the smaller of your two stressors.
It's too bad, but it appears you may always have to be the one shouldering the heaviest burden in your relationship. I've seen couples where the "well" one uses the partner's health condition as the excuse for everything, starting with "we could pay our bills if..." and proceeding to "I could have advanced more in my career if..." or "our kids would have turned out better if..." I'm not saying this will happen with you, but just do consider that you may always have to carry the load.
You know what your situation is, but it's possible going to visit your family for a while could give everyone a break from the stress. It won't save him any money, but maybe just the break is stress would help you both.
And please be careful of the on-line "work at home" ads. A good general rule of thumb is to stay away from anything that wants you to send money up front. You wouldn't do that for a regular job and you shouldn't have to for a legitimate work at home job.
Judy - Southern US
Moderate to severe left-sided UC (21 cm) diagnosed 2001.
Avascular necrosis in both shoulders is my "forever" gift from Entocort.
Colazal, Remicade, Nature's Way Primadophilus Reuteri. In remission since April, 2006.
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