Moving.... AGAIN.. I don't know if I can handle it...

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   Posted 9/8/2008 1:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Tonight I just found out that my long term place is still available long term, but for a price much more than I can afford with the money I'm making right now.... So, I have to move... AGAIN.... SOON.... and I don't know where I'm moving too.... I can't believe how much this sucks for me, my husband is in our home, relaxing with all our furniture and the comorts of having a stable place to live and I'm out on the streets basically, trying to find a place to live that I can afford and depend on for a while until we decide if we're going to stay married or not.... This is the most stress I've ever been through and my flare is reflecting it to a tee... I went potty tonight and all that came out was mucus and blood... the first time that's ever happened for me.. I usually have poopies with red racing stripes or blood on the TP, but now it's progressed to only blood and mucus coming out and I am scared to death that I'm going to get sicker and sicker because I can't handle all the crap that's happening to me lately... rolleyes   At least I have work painting a house this week and I have a few hay deliveries scheduled also... I'm seriously thinking about going back to my cabin in Montana and just staying there for the winter, but then I'd lose my hay business and I swear, I just don't know what to do....
Diagnosed with U/C January 31st, 2004, IBS on July 21st, 2006 
 No remission no more.. lol.. Flaring now for 3 weeks. Blood and mucus and cramps.. argh!!! Meds are Rowasa, Canasa and Culturelle 1x a day, plus an occasional Xanax if I feel stressed out.... 

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   Posted 9/8/2008 2:45 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't know what to suggest're very resourceful and talented regarding financial earnings. You can't beat a dead need to make the decision of finality so that you can get on with what you do

Expect your flare to continue.....You did well in Montana from what I recall last winter. You do remember why you went last year?
Trust yourself to know what you need to do. 


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Post Edited (quincy) : 9/8/2008 2:07:09 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/8/2008 7:52 AM (GMT -6)   
I would suggest you refuse to leave the house and kick hubby to the curb instead. If he has more money he can afford to get his own place. But I don't know your personal situation so if that would put you in danger than disregard my advice. I just hate that it is often the woman that is moving out. Tell him he either has to move out or pay some of your rent so you can afford the place. If you get divorced he will be paying you alimony anyway so he might as well start now.
26 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.

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   Posted 9/8/2008 9:34 AM (GMT -6)   
((((((Susie)))))) So sorry I can't offer any advice. But we're here to listen when you need to vent and when you need support. Take care of your health first!
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   Posted 9/8/2008 12:15 PM (GMT -6)   

oh Susie i'm so sorry that you are going through this horrid time.It would be foolish of anyone to advise you whats best to do at the minute cos we are not in your shoes.But what i do know is that you are very caring,smart  and extremely resourceful.With these qualities i'm sure that you will get through this. You have massive decisions to make that many people couldn't bring themselves to make but i'm sure you are strong enough to do what has to be done.

                                    love and hugs on the way to you Susie


                                     keep the faith 

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   Posted 9/8/2008 12:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Things always work out for the best. I hope this is true for you, too, and that you get settled soon.
49 year old female attorney, diagnosed UC/pancolitis 1985, no surgery but much suffering.
Asacol/5ASA maintenance for 20+ years, usually 3 pills 2x day. 
Currently tapering OFF presnisone from lingering flare;
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   Posted 9/8/2008 2:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Susie; I wish I could help in some way. You know what is best for you. Hugs and loves.


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   Posted 9/8/2008 2:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Susie, I am new here just diagnosised 8/25/08. I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and putting you on my prayer list for your marriage, your health, and your emotional well being. It doesn't seem fair that hubby is living in comfort - usually happens that way it seems.


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   Posted 9/8/2008 9:10 PM (GMT -6)   
If you can afford to stay in your home then move back and get your hubby to leave, at the moment this is the only thing I can think of as a possible option for you.


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   Posted 9/8/2008 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   
THanks again everyone... I'm sorry to be such a bummer lately....

Q, you are right about my doing well in Montana last year and YES... I remember why I went in the first place... AND, that's where I got my almost 9 month no-med-required remission started.... Hmmmmmmm..... I have to really think about survival though and it would be very hard to get a job there that pays enough to make the mortgage and all the bills... At least here I have my hay business and I'm working for a painting contractor...

I actually told my husband that my staying here is necessary and he needs to help me... He said he doesn't want to talk about it right now but we're going to have too pretty soon as I only have about 2 weeks left to make a decision whether I'm staying or not... I'm hoping this painting job will keep me busy enough to where I don't need his help.. Plus I'm getting a few new hay customers every month so hopefully that will help too. We'll see how it goes.. I'm doubling up on my meds for now.....

Thanks again everyone for (listening) to me whine... lol... Anybody got any cheese??? LOL
Diagnosed with U/C January 31st, 2004, IBS on July 21st, 2006 
 No remission no more.. lol.. Flaring now for 3 weeks. Blood and mucus and cramps.. argh!!! Meds are Rowasa, Canasa and Culturelle 1x a day, plus an occasional Xanax if I feel stressed out.... 

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