This is one frustrating disease isn't it! You sound so isolated and scared. I'm really sorry to hear about all the problems you've been having, both physically and with employment issues. After my diagnosis, I spent a long time hoping, praying, and wishing that someone would give me a diet to follow that would help to eliminate my symptoms. I heard again and again from many different sources...doctors, people here on the forum, nutritionists...that keeping a food diary is one of the most useful tools for us. Of course I ignored that advice because a food diary is too much trouble to maintain, and if someone couldn't spell out a diet for me, well then I'd keep eating whatever I wanted. Besides, keeping this diary would mean that I was finally giving in to this disease. I was in pretty heavy denial for a while.
I eventually changed this thinking and gave the old diary a try. Just as a trial period I was telling myself. I discovered this was probably the most useful tool we have for helping ourselves! There was a reason some many people recommended it to me. Keeping track of what does and doesn't agree with you, and having it on paper, helps not only you, but your doctor as well. This disease is so personalized that what helps one or two or ten people might not help you. But keeping the food diary, and tracking how different things affect you will let you know what helps YOU. It helps your doc, because he/she might be able to find a pattern in certain foods, and you might discover a food allergy or intolerance.
Read through the posts here and you will discover many people advising someone keep a diary/journal. You will also discover that many people have miracle cures for themselves, but that doesn't mean their diet will work for you. Never hurts to try them out though.
Due to your age, I'm guessing you've been getting jobs that are just that...jobs. I'm not sure what your interests and training are, but I've found that when you have a particular skill and are looking into career type jobs, employers are more forgiving and understanding. It also helps to be healthy when hired, which gives the employer time to get to know you and appreciate what a good employee you are. Then when you have a flare, they like you enough to work with you to maintain your employment.
I hope this helps you. This disease is one pain in the ***. Most people do not understand UC or Crohn's, and that includes doctors. The folks here are always willing to help out, give support, or empathize with you. I've gained more knowledge and helpful tips from this forum than I ever got from any doctor. I know it doesn't seem like it, but remission is possible to achieve.
Good luck and let us know if you have any other questions.
36 y.o. male
Diagnosed w/ moderate UC in May '06 - currently flaring
Asacol, Florastor, VSL#3, Wellbutrin XL, Prozac, multi-vitamin, Allegra, Lialda, Prednisone 30mg