we are 33 and 34 respectively, not too old to have kids and have quite a few years yet where I can still conceive (hopefully).
my husband's 3 best friends all are all expecting and the third one called to tell him last night. so he started to say how next April will be our turn to try and I told him that I cannot guarantee anything with my health and we have to wait until I am in remission (my kidneys and also want to make sure my UC stays there) and that I have to be off certain meds for 3 months before trying.
So he says how he doesn't want to be 37 and be a father to a newborn, I was completely shocked to hear him say this. I was like well we may not have a choice, it may have to be ok. Plus we want to have two kids so this makes no sense as if I had one now my second could be at that age for him, it's only 3 years away. He was like well do you want me to lie and say it will be ok. I was like no I do not want you to lie. He was like well what do you want me to say. Normally I tell him, he gets it or we argue and move on. But this time I am so hurt I want him to get it on his own and I do not have the strength or want to argue this point with him. He really has to come up with it on his own. I really do not want to look at him at this point, I am just so hurt. I know we will get through it but I have never felt this way towards him, I am just sick about how much of a moron he is.
I have done everything within my power to get well, if I could snap my fingers or try some miracle drug I would. Also, I am mad that he obviously does not remember things I have told him that pertain to all of this.
Thanks for listening. He is a great person, but sometimes, he needs to be walloped over the head with it, though this time I am too hurt and tired and upset to do it.
Beth, 33 ~ hoping to taper pred successfully, wish me luck!
Major Flare Sept/Oct 07
UC dx'd 03/00 (Proctosigmoiditis); Pancolitis since 09/07
Azathioprine 200mg 1xday nightly; Calcium and Vit D 500mg 3xday, Multi Vit, Folic Acid 400mg 2xday, Prilosec, Probiotics.
Minimal Change Disease (Kidney Disorder) dx'd 09/07. Close to remission since 9/08.
Prednisone 5mg/2.5mg alt days 1xday, Simvastatin 20mg 1xday, Diovan 160mg 2xday. Tekturna 300mg 1xday, Fosomax 70mg 1xweek. MCD may be from hypersensitivty to 5ASA drugs. Do you have edema? If so, check your blood protien level!