Totally OT, why are people so spineless?

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beartooth
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   Posted 10/17/2008 12:25 AM (GMT -6)   
So last night I heard a thumping on a wall in my apartment building around 10pm, but I couldn't tell if it was directed at me, or someone else.  Regardless, I turned my stereo volume down significantly, just in case.  So tonight, right around 10pm, the thumping again.  I decided it was maybe my downstairs neighbor, went down there, but no one was home.  Went back upstairs, lowered the volume down even more, to the point I could barely hear it.  Then the wall thumping again, this time hard enough to knock a couple of pictures off my wall.  So I went next door.  There is a couple that has been there 5 months or so, so I was a little curious about why all the sudden my music was a problem.  The woman said they have to get up early, blah blah blah, but if I kept ignoring their requests (wall thumpings) to lower my volume, they'd call the police.  I said big whoop-dee.  Cop shows up, tells me to turn the volume down even more. It was a very empty threat in my opinion.
 
I asked how long my music volume had been a problem, and she said basically ever since they moved in.  Their bedroom shares a common wall with my living room.  I asked why they never said anything before, and she said "They were just trying to be good neighbors.".  I told her in the future, I'll keep the volume down, and if they have any problems, please let me know.  I'm not out to make life miserable for them, I just like listening to music all the time.  So I've got my trustee headphones on, but I'm now wondering if they will begin complaining about other common noises (like the key board tapping), dishes clinking together etc.  I asked why she never said anything in passing to me, or maybe left a note on my door, but she said she made an attempt to come over last night (used the little knocker that I can't hear under the best of circumstances).  Honestly, that was her first attempt to solve the problem.  I'm going to leave a note on their door tomorrow with my phone #, so if they have a problem, they don't have to knock stuff off my walls to problem-solve.
 
All it would have taken was a simple "Your stereo really carries into our bedroom at night.  Could you please turn it down after 10pm?" and no problems.  Now they think I've been intentionally antagonizing them, and I really my passive-aggressiveness kicking in.  I'm feel like keeping the stereo up loud until they complain.  When did the polite thing become banging on the wall, and not talking to your neighbor?
 
Okay, done ranting.  Feels good to just get it out there.  My neighbors are such spineless twits.  Prior to their moving in, I never had problem with radio volume.  Now I'm going to walk around on eggshells.  I hope they only have a 6 month lease, and are moving soon.  This could be a real pain for me.  I always have music playing, and if deprived of that, I really might go crazy.  Plus I just did a 1 year lease back in August.  This could an annoying winter.
 
Off to bed now.  I hope everyone has a good weekend.


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Post Edited (beartooth) : 10/17/2008 12:30:10 AM (GMT-6)


ivy6
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   Posted 10/17/2008 3:46 AM (GMT -6)   
(((beartooth))) That's horrible.
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Red_34
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   Posted 10/17/2008 3:47 AM (GMT -6)   
No matter where you go, I believe you are always going to have some idiot neighbor. I have 2 of them myself. They are very inconsiderate however they do listen to reason. For instance, they have 4 dogs. They would let their dogs out and the instant they hit the outdoors they would start barking their heads off and continue barking for a long time. The problem was is that their side door to their backyard is right next to the windows of my daughters bedroom and at the time, my grandmothers. My gma at the time was fighting cancer and needed her rest. It drove her nuts and she would end up complaining to me. I finally wrote a note to them (because they are hardly ever home) and told them basically to clam their dogs up at 8pm or I was going to call the animal control (3 dogs is a max you can have). So, the best we can do is to go with the circumstances and hope that things don't get out of control.
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   Posted 10/17/2008 5:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I have a neighbour like that. One night (around 9pm on a weekend so not late) I had downloaded a song and was playing it just to make sure it downloaded properly (as you do!). Barely 30 seconds into the song, there was banging at my front door with her shouting telling me to turn it down. I can understand if I'd been playing loud music for quite a while, but the song wasn't even half over before she turned up and it wasn't that loud anyway (I would barely have been able to hear it if I'd been in the next room). Some neighbours just like complaining I think.
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FitzyK23
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   Posted 10/17/2008 6:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh I hope your bathroom shares a wall with them too. I'd tell them I have a disease that causes crohnic diarrhea and I have the music on so they don't hear me pooping. It is their choice which they want to fall asleep to. I'd love to see their faces.
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Beth75
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   Posted 10/17/2008 6:54 AM (GMT -6)   
I have no idea, but people are just jerks sometimes. I was at a store this weekend and these women were totally being mean and picking on the 16 yr old cashier. It was over some crazy guy who stood in line but got the wrong thing and was told he could come back to the front of the line and not have to wait again and these women went crazy..........right or wrong whatever, I told the women to stop picking on her and to discuss w/the manager if they had a problem. One woman told me she wanted to teach her a lesson, again I said well talk to the manager and just leave the poor girl alone, but the woman in line got so mad she left and was yelling about it in the parking lot.

It felt so good to stand up for that girl, I was a cashier in high school and people can be really mean.

Now I just have to stand up to those ppl who leave their shopping carts right next to your car, normally I just take the cart and go. I had someone do that and the carriage corral was next to them on the other side.
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WhiteSox1
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   Posted 10/17/2008 7:39 AM (GMT -6)   
FitzyK23 said...
Oh I hope your bathroom shares a wall with them too. I'd tell them I have a disease that causes crohnic diarrhea and I have the music on so they don't hear me pooping. It is their choice which they want to fall asleep to. I'd love to see their faces.

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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 10/17/2008 7:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Ok I do have a devil's advocate case here, when I was working in law enforcement a woman went next door to ask them to turn down the music and she ended up getting assulted. So please forgive a woman who might have just might have been scared to approach you.  Or maybe she just had a blinding migraine (migraines can make one very sensitive to sound, light, movement) and was so sick she could only pound on the wall. 


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kops2da
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   Posted 10/17/2008 9:20 AM (GMT -6)   

I can solve that problem!  Move out in the country like where I live.  I can't even SEE a neighbors house.  The only time I hear anything is summer with windows open and then maybe a wolf or other creature.  Neighbors do have a rooster but he is pretty quiet and can't hear him inside.

Actually, I woudl like to be nearer to people most of the time - too quiet and boring since we are retired!

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   Posted 10/17/2008 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Humans simply need to live by the Golden Rule:

Do onto others as you'd have them do onto to you.

This wonderful little rule cuts accross every religion, race, sex, group etc. and they don't even teach it in school anymore... : (

 


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beartooth
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   Posted 10/17/2008 2:45 PM (GMT -6)   

I actually live by a variation of the golden rule:

Do unto others as I'd be willing to have others do unto me.
So if I'm willing to have someone be a jerk to me, I can be a jerk to them.  Since I don't like people being jerks, I don't act like one.  This little difference makes me a much better person I think.  But either rule is a good code of conduct to follow.

MMMNavy, I can understand your point of view, but her hubby was home, and was in the background telling her to forget talking to me, he was just going to make the call.  And if the woman was so un-well that all she could do was pound on a wall, she had enough strength to knock a couple pictures off the wall.  After I returned home, a few minutes later hubby came over somewhat sheepishly and apologized for wife's b****y attitude.  If he just done that (come over) four months ago, this all could have been avoided.

Fitzy, I wish my bathroom was next to their bedroom.  I just know that I need to be living not in an apartment anymore.  I get sick of everyone's smoke blowing in my windows, and now sound sensitive neighbors.  I've never had bad neighbors before, so this was a new one to me.


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mh53mike
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   Posted 10/17/2008 5:28 PM (GMT -6)   
I would have put my foot through the wall. Of course i have anger issues and hate things that keep me up.
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ucwarrior
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   Posted 10/18/2008 12:14 AM (GMT -6)   
I had a similar experience living off campus my senior year of college. We moved in and realized the house had been cut in half to accomodate 2 households, we shared one giant wall. We approached her the first day and said that if she had any problems with us please let us know, she agreed.

We had a house warming party that nite and there was about 15 or so people. Not very loud but its college after all. 3 hours into the party a cop shows up and kicks everyone out. We knocked on her door to find out whats up. No answer (spineless) We knew she was home. She avoided us for the next week. We decided next weekend to throw a rager to show her what could have been. Cop shows up after half hour. Finally one of my roomates caught up with her and asked her whats up. She denied calling the cops and said we didn't bother her. Next weekend we had a dinner party for the four housemates and their women. Cop shows up. This is getting embarrasssing and old so we asked the cop what we could do to make the police dept. happy. He said the lady next door has three children trying to sleep and has been disturbed. Funny... we never saw or heard any children, no toys outside, nothing. We saw her the next AM and still she denied calling the po.

The very next weekend we had our parents up for dinner. Cop shows up. He was clearly embarrassed when he saw no people in the house but us and a bunch of fullgrown adults sitting around the table playing cards. He apologized and left. Uh oh lady...

The next weekend it was just us and we decided to turn the bass/volume up on the stereo and find out what's up. No cop. Weird.

The next AM the lady came to the door and was banging hard. My roomate answered and she flipped out on him saying that she called the cops last nite but they wouldn't respond. He asked about her kids she said they didn't live there, but with their dad. It was just her. She had just given us a free pass because she cried wolf too many times. We blasted her all year and that's what she gets.

Moral of the story: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, until they p**s you off. Then turn up the stereo and crush their heads.

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   Posted 10/18/2008 9:55 AM (GMT -6)   
I use headphones late at night, that way I can turn the volume up higher than if I didn't use them and there's no problem. I also use a very long extension to that I can...how can I say this,...attempt to dance.
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neednewbody
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   Posted 10/18/2008 9:30 PM (GMT -6)   
This is not your fault or theirs -- the builder shouldnt have been so cheap and should have installed thicker walls with more insulation.
My apartment is so quiet. you are out in the hall you can hear everyone's television, talking, everything,and then once inside.. silence - love it
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beartooth
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   Posted 10/19/2008 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't think the workmanship of the building is shoddy or cheap. The only noises that I can hear from other neighbors are when people slam doors, or water running occasionally. That is why I was so surprised by the revelation that my neighbors had a problem. The people that lived there before them didn't have a problem. The people under me don't have a problem. The little old lady on the other side of me doesn't have a problem. It is just the two twits next to me who have the problem.

I've been working the last couple of nights, so I haven't been around to find out if and how far they are planning on pushing this. I'm thinking of giving UCWarrioirs plan a try. Let them call the cops, or complain to management. Then they can get a rational person's opinion of just how loud my music ISN'T. I'm not a noisy person, and you would think if the stereo really was that annoying they would have said something months ago.

The key is lack of communication. Heck, I saw the complaining neighbor lady coming out her place a couple of weeks ago and I said hello, and she barely acknowledged my existence. I'm not saying I'm completely blameless, because I do keep extremely odd hours, and always have music playing if the TV isn't on. I just don't appreciate people who won't try civility before hostility.
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   Posted 10/19/2008 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
I have an annoying neighbor. Only had 1 problem with them though. One time when my husband and I came home from eating out, they had a friend over and took our reserved parking spot. Only 1 reserved parking spot per apartment. So, we expect to park in our spot when we get home. My husband honked his horn to try to get someone out there, cuz that's what u do right? So, he honked it a couple of times. Nothing happened, then he laid on his horn. Still nothing. I got out and was going to start writing things down and get the phone number for towing cuz we have the right to have a car towed if it's in our spot. There is very limited parking here. So, we were in the middle of that when These 2 couples all dressed up come down the stairs. I ask them if that's their car, the gal I talked to said no it's my friends, sorry. Once they got into their car the barely could turn the thing on. LOL I was afraid we'd have to tow in anyways. But they got it started. But it took them about 10 minutes to get out and move the car.
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   Posted 10/19/2008 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I have lived in more than my share of apartments. When I moved, I asked about the neighbors around all the available units before I picked one.

When my son was a small baby, a lady moved in above me. When my baby would cry, she would stomp on the floor and scream" I can't stand it anymore!" over and over. Sometimes, this made my baby cry more. Once she came to the door and said my baby was scared. Maybe he was scared, of the screaming stomping lady upstairs.
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   Posted 10/19/2008 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
I also have a couple with a 1 yr old they dont care and concider anyone elses feeling. They are loud every hour of the day.
They are just rude rude rude. And my bedroom room wall is there kitchen wall, I think they live in there. They are just plain old rude. I am so quiet. Maybe I should throw a big bash and show them what its like at 1am making all sorts of racket. I am friends with cops in my town so hahaha they wouldn't do anything. lol
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   Posted 10/19/2008 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm a big old fat chicken and avoid confrontation at all costs. I have been in that situation a time or two, so I have gone to the Apartment manager to see what my options were and to get them to mediate the situation. They get paid to handle this sort of crap. Plus it takes you off the hook for being any sort of bad guy.

The problem is people are people and it's hard not to take things personally or get into a pissing contest. If you have the Apartment manager address the problem, it 1)puts it on record and 2)takes the heat off of you.
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   Posted 10/20/2008 8:08 AM (GMT -6)   
I lived in a rented apartment and below us was a Chinese guy - his apartment alarm used to go off when he wasn't in and the alarm box was below out living room window! We asked him to fix it or leave it off (the flat's were in a secure compound anyway) and a Friday night when i was in the thing kept on going off - continuously, we rang him and asked him to turn it off and he said he was coming back (I didn't speak to him) and after 1/2 hour no sign of him - tried to ring again and his phone was off so i went downstairs ripped the alarm cover off (outside) and just ripped the alarm bit out and threw it behind some bushes. I noticed I had not damaged the alarm box so I put it back. He must have fixed the alarm after that because it never made a sound...
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beartooth
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   Posted 10/20/2008 4:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Apartment dwelling is so pleasant isn't it? I have to admit, it's been kinda fun to hear others venting about bad neighbors, and how they dealt with them. I'm the type who lets people know pretty quickly if there are any problems. I don't like conflict either, and the sooner a situation can be resolved, the less conflict there is.

This is my first day/night off since my little run-in with the neighbors. I'm on a graveyard rotation at work, so it must've been extremely peaceful and quiet all weekend for my neighbors. I'm guessing they appreciated it, but I also hope they don't expect silence from my side again. After all, it's Monday Night, which means football. I'll do my best to keep the volume at a minimum, but I live here too.

I hope they don't plan on being irrational about this whole deal. Oh well, I'll just deal with whatever comes my way when and if it does.
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FitzyK23
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   Posted 10/20/2008 10:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Brandon - my story is about spineless too, but not with neighbors. A distant friend posted a myspace bulletin that had something blatantly false about a political candidate (being vague to avoid breaking rules here). I looked it up to make sure I was right, posted a comment with a link to the truth and wrote "I have no problem with political discourse but lets not bash a whole religion or judge someone on their name, particularly when the facts are not accurate." I would like to think I would feel that way about any candidate regardless of political affiliation. I posted this as a comment so anyone she sent her false statement to would respectfully see that she was mistaken. Rather than debate me about it, or even yell at me and flame me, SHE DELETED MY COMMENT. How spineless. It is one thing to unintentionally mislead someone, it is another to do it purposefully and delete the truth. I know that is a little off topic but I was just venting about how people can be so spineless and I remembered your post.
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   Posted 10/21/2008 12:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Shortly after our new neighbors moved in, we heard loud banging on the wall between our apartments at around 2:00 am. It turns out they were setting up their new home theater system.

A few nights later, the music was so loud, they actually knocked a picture off our wall. We tried knocking on the door to ask them to lower it but they couldn't hear us. They didn't even get home until after 10:00pm so it was hard to catch them to talk. We ended up having to call the police, they couldn't hear the cops knocking. I told the police to break down the door and go shoot them but they wouldn't. They did move the speakers off our common walls and reduce the volume a bit after that.

You have to watch the bass in an apartment. It's what travels and drives people crazy. Keep the bass low and you'll get less complaints.

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   Posted 10/21/2008 1:10 AM (GMT -6)   
I recently had a similiar experience but instead I was the annoyed shocked  neighbor that brought in a third party to resolve an issue.  I was and after apologizing still am I believe on friendly terms with the lady that lives next to me and every morning she would let her dog out on the balcony right beside my bedroom window and the little bugger would bark at anything that would come by confused (trash truck, humans, anything that stirred and the little runt would go absolutely nuts.  It would start at 715 or so and last until about 830.  The dog had woken me up almost every day for the past two years and needless to say the resentment was thick.  I even thought about taking a contract out on the dog devil (j/k I really love dogs)! My schedule changed so that I would sleep in late so the dog really became an issue.  Well about three weeks ago I had had enough and decided to mention it to my condo manager (thinking I was being non-threatening and just trying to resolve the situation).  Well it really ticked her apparently after he said something to her.  I just was being lazy and didn't feel like getting into a possible confrontation and besides this lady is the type that is the first to complain about anything and I thought the nerve of her to let her dog sit out on the balcony every morning and bark like that was just plain rude.  I though it was disrespectful and thought to myself that this lady had to know that her dog was making a ruckus and should not be allowed to bark every morning that early.  My thinking was that it was common sense for her to not let her dog do that and I frankly did not want to talk about it with her because her dog is her life and I didn't want to have to break the news.  My situation is different in many ways than what happened to you in that I think calling the cops is much more serious and not the same but I guess my point is that people sometimes react bitterly when they are bothered and there is better ways to resolve issues.  I think the best thing to do is to see if you can try a different approach and instead of getting frustrated about the situation see if you can come to some terms.  That way you aren't walking on eggshells so to speak and you understand their boundaries and vice versa.  If they are just stubborn and uncooperative then you at least tried to work things out peacefully.  You could give them your number and tell them to call you if the music is too loud, also set up a timeframe when your allowed to play your music at a reasonable volume.  You probably have more in common with them than you think and if you try to smooth it over with them it will be easier then feuding.  It is really low for them to call the police if they didnt try to talk with you first so I can see your anger and frustration but maybe just give them the benefit of the doubt.  I saw my dad feud with his neighbors in his old neighborhood and they would all go back and forth with calling the police and doing things to each other.  It got ugly and everyone lost in many ways.  I think it's better to try to work things out than live in a state of conflict (if it can be reasonably avoided).  The best case scenario is that you make new friends and find common ground to live by.   
 



 
 
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Post Edited (UMDTerp2001) : 10/21/2008 1:32:06 AM (GMT-6)

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