Lifting is limited to 10lbs for the first six weeks post surgery. You won't be able to lift your 2 year old for at least that amount of time. The risk is in developing a hernia.
I was back to work 3 weeks from the date of surgery and I had the traditional cut. Everyone's recovery is different but with young kids around the house you might want to count on very limited activity for at least 6 weeks.
dx proctitis in 1987
dx UC in 1991, was stable until 1998
1998 started prednisone, asacol, pentasa, nortriptylene, ativan, 6MP, rowasa enemas and suppositories, hydrocortisone enemas, tried the SCD diet, being a vegetarian, omega 3s, flax, pranic healing, yoga, acupuncture, probiotics
2000 lost all my B-12 stores and became anemic
2001 opted for j-pouch surgery- now living life med-free