Well, it's good the doc finally put you on the oral 5ASA...that took a while (wow, didn't realise it's been 3 years since you came on board).
My doc would increase from a lower dosage rather than start at the top. Diarrhea and other UC-like symptoms are experienced by some...it would be counterproductive to have both symptoms if after a short period they didn't improve. I did get worse before I got better, but the meds don't work immediately....but I started off at 4 Asacol daily and increased to 6. I'd strongly start at 2 Lialda and increase by one at a time if you needed to..
Are you still on the Rowasa nightly?
I won't comment too much on the husband situation except to say that you have to consider personal self-preservation and your future. It's not an overnight revelation to change and the journey when stressed will have one revert to the easiest and most comfortable reaction. If he is indeed bi-polar....your role in his actions has to be put into the equation.
I hope therapy helps...but ultimately, it should be for the individual and how it can affect each other...sometimes it's best to go separate ways. That's not a failure if self-worth and independence and moving forward is a result.
Do take care....
If you would do me a favour, I'd love it. if you're able to get out on a ride on a sunny day, no wind, onto a soft dry dirt road (don't know what it's like where you are) or in the freshly fallen snow at a real slow lope...that sound is awesome....Drink in the air and say "this one's for you Heather"....
Keep me posted as how you're doing.
*Heather* Status..Asacol 6 (3 twice daily); flaring since Dec 22, enemas nightly (sigh!!)
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed
~Probiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls, Natural Factors Ultimate).... @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed
~Ranitidine (reflux); Effexor XR 75mg(depression); Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!