Oh my gosh, I am so sorry :(. I had a little discomfort from using enemas and definitely know the pain of raw butt from wiping, but you must be so miserable! What helps me is Aquaphor ointment. I just put it on the butt ever so often and push a kleenex between my butt crack to keep the ointment in place and to avoid staining the underpants. I have no experience with hemmorrhoid ointments, but I hope it helps you.
Hope you feel better soon!
Scarlett, 38 yo., TX
Pancolitis since 3/1997
Worst flare of my life from 8/2008 until mid 12/2008 - bye bye flare! Was about friggin' time ...
6 x Asacol a day
0 mg Prednisone (stopped Dec 14, 2008)
75mg 6-MP (started Dec 1, 2008)
Flintstones Complete Vitamins