You could sit down with your family and tell them that they're putting too much responsibility to you. Set up a light system connected to your grandfather's room to alert
others that he's in need...and suggest that you have to take turns because it's too stressful for you to do all the duties.
Is your grandfather able to understand what's going on? meaning is his mind logical? Explain to him to not call your name unless it's urgent because you can't be running to him at every whim.
The other thing is to maybe get someone in to help with your grandfather a few hours a day.
Most of us have anger management issues, and most of them are fuelled by frustration...remember your boyfriend shuts down with his father, and probably doesn't know what to do with your situation that requires so much of you.
Don't lower yourself to your boyfriend with constant texting, considering his only response is thank you....I know it sounds worse than I'm meaning it...but let him be for a while. He probably doesn't know what to do/say to help you.
You need to talk with your parents and family to work out a plan for your grandfather....that will help lower your stress levels. Maybe do shifts at home so that everyone is contributing to his needs and also their own needs.
*Heather* Status..Asacol (3 twice daily); flaring since Dec 22, tapered every 2nd nite (Jan 3)
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed
~Probiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls, Natural Factors Ultimate).... @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed
~Ranitidine (reflux); Effexor XR 75mg(depression); Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!