I remember when I used to think "I couldn't get something that will kill me and put me out of my misery. Oh, no, I get something that just makes me sicker and sicker but will never kill me." Depression is extremely common in people with chronic disease, and it's a lot harder for men, in general, because of rule #1:
Guys don't talk about
and rule #2:
Guys don't even like to think about
having diseases that make them "weak" and embarrass them
One thing to remember is that we all seem to agree stress plays a large part in our symptoms. So, hard as it is, you may want to not try to get your sons to talk to you about
it (they may see it as intrusive) or to take care of them too much (they see it as "smothering".) Unfortunately, we all have to make our own way, our own decisions and our own mistakes.
Educating yourselves about
the disease can only help, too.
Moderate to severe left-sided UC (21 cm) diagnosed 2001.
Avascular necrosis in both shoulders is my "forever" gift from Entocort.
Colazal, Remicade, Nature's Way Primadophilus Reuteri. In remission since April, 2006.
"My life is an ongoing medical adventure"
Co-Moderator UC Forum
Please remember to consult your health care provider when making health-related decisions.