Hey .. I can understand what your son is going through. I was hit pretty hard when I was told this was something I would have forever...and the symptoms have changed my life a bit.
I am only 28, so a bit older than your son, but not too far from the college partying days. I have never gone to talk to anyone, but I have done a lot of thinking.
Tell your son, once he accepts this, he can move forward. It is alot easier to deal with once you accept it. I know I might not be saying all the same things if I was feeling worse than I am (at the moment feeling not bad), but it's true. After that, focus on him, his health and doing things that work for him. Life changes a bit, but it's far from over. So he can't eat certain things, or maybe not drink as much (everyone's different). No biggie. Doesn't mean he can't do whatever else he wants when he's feeling good. He needs to work with his Dr. ... figure out what's best for him...maybe read a bit about what he's going through...
The key is, he has to WANT to take control...I dunno, maybe I'm blowing smoke...but I hate to see a young guy feel like crap. I hated feeling like crap...but this site has helped and made me realize that all these people work, do things everyday. Some days suck, but some don't. He's not alone. Maybe he doesn't need therapy, but if he just wants to chat to someone who has it, this site is good. He can have my e-mail if he wants. Tell him to keep his head up. Enjoy the days he feels good and do what he can to make more of them. Also, life's short, don't sweat the small stuff.
Chuck - 28 yrs and counting
Diagnosed w/ UC Dec 08 - pancolitis
Pentasa 500mg 2pills-4x daily
50mg tapering ... 25mg day - Calicium + Vit D
Multivitamin, vitamin C, probiotics, fish oil
"If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?"