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   Posted 2/18/2009 6:19 AM (GMT -6)   
yesturday i found out that i lost my job. i have a house to pay and bills and credit cards! yesturday i was stressing alot and this morning when i went to the bathroom it wasnt too pretty. no blood or mucus but it was just not pretty there was even undigested food. how do you guys make yourself calm down when your stressing?
- 23 year old female, Gatineau, Quebec
 -diagnosed with UC june 2007 panacolitis
- Asacol (6 daily)800mg
- Salofalk (1 at bedtime) 1000mg

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   Posted 2/18/2009 6:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Ohh I am so sorry to hear you lost your job! That is not good especially at this time :( How do I make myself calm? That is such a tricky thing but what works best for me is if I try to do something that I enjoy. It takes my mind off my troubles even if it's for a little bit. Hang in there and I hope you find another job soon.
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I was in the same situation. I had to leave the reserves after 15 years due to my UC, then I lost my job due to cut backs. I took another job and was let go because they said they over hired for the position, then my wife left me. I stressed so much that the only thing coming out of me during a BM was blood. I lost everything, house, wife, credit and I didn't have a job. I hit rock bottom, total depression! I now work at a local hospital. I have been at the hospital six months and I have managed to avoid the first lay-offs.
I no longer have any stress at all, because I have been through what I thought was the end of the world as I knew it.
The only thing I can tell you is that you are not alone. My friends who were laid off with me still call and they are still clinging to hope and trying to save their houses and their marriages. It is difficult for me to listen to them, because I know that they are hoping, that in some way, that I'll be able to give them some helpful advise. I don't blame them, I did the same thing and still lost everything.
I am now happy and stress free. If I get laid-off again, then I will take it in stride. You are 23 and you will recover from all this, you have plenty of time. Believe me, you are not the only one going through this kind of situation. It took me watching empoyees in their fifties and sixties getting laid off to help me to understand that atleast I have youth on my side.

jone bone
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes, I've hit some hard times with this as well. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger and lucky for you, you have socialized healthcare in Quebec. Try to find a healthy escape for the moment, and once you get your bearings, then you can start looking for another job. Just sort your mind out before it unsorts your body.

You will get through this if you can keep peace of mind. I think that's the only thing that keeps any of us going.

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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:03 AM (GMT -6)   

My dear

Please do not worry. I am sorry to hear about your lay off. However, we have all faced such situations. Infact, qusam has faced problems exactly similar to me. I lost everything, my legal practice, my office, my wife separated, all the finances and every damm thing, besides the mounting medical expenses and ill  health. Well God has been kind, I have my elderly parents who still support me in whatever manner they can. I meditate a lot. It really helps. Do deep breathing. World never comes to an end.

If you stumble, make it part of your dance

Never think hard about "past", it brings "tears". Don't think more about "future", it brings "fears". Live this moment with a smile it brings "cheers".
Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.
Those who say it can't be done are usually interrupted by others doing it.
Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn't know you left open.
Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.
Go and wake up your luck.
If one does not know to which port he is sailing, no wind is favourable.
To a brave man, good luck and bad luck are like his right hand and left hand. He uses both.
The only sure thing about luck is that it will change.
Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
One of the keys to happiness is bad memory.
Slow down and enjoy life, It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast - you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.
To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Life is a foreign language; all men mispronounce it.
Never pretend to love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.
All human actions have one or more of these seven causes; chance, nature, compulsion, habit, reason, passion, and desire.
The secret of being a bore is to tell everything, like I am doing these days. 
Warm regards
Have a Good day

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Diagnosed UC October 1989
Had two stage J Pouch Surgery Nov 2005 March 2006
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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:10 AM (GMT -6)   
You are not alone, just remember that. I too have lost my job and no insurance now. My UC has been in remission for several years and the stress has brought it back full blown.  I am thankful that I have found this site because only all of you can understand what we go through. So I just want to say thank you to all of you. I have starting believing it will get better. So I am hoping that helps. smurf

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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:43 AM (GMT -6)   
I have had many losses in the last few years too; and my boyfriend who is 55 lost his job back in October with nothing out there. I've finally figured out that....what will be will be. I only have control over certain things, and most of all, my thoughts and feelings. Only I can make my self miserable or happy. So although it's not easy sometimes, I try to think of the positive. Have you ever noticed that every year the trees lose all their leaves....then in the spring they come back full force. Flowers reappear without any stress, it just happens. Birds build their nests for their babies. I try to look at nature when I'm feeling on the stressed side and remember that everything happens for a reason. Take care, and hey, we are all in this together. It will take a village to get things back on track.


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   Posted 2/18/2009 9:03 AM (GMT -6)   
You're not alone, especially now days.

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   Posted 2/18/2009 9:50 AM (GMT -6)   
So sorry to hear about these worries.

I hope you can find ways to take good care of yourself while you get through this. Know that everything will work out, it always does, and sometimes for the best!

I like to treat myself to bubble baths, or walks (short ones, round and round to stay near a bathroom, if necessary). Take advantage of the forced break from work by accomplishing some tasks around the house, like painting or home repairs, or spending a little more time exercising to get your body stronger than ever. That always made me feel better when I was between jobs, and keeps the anxiety level down.

Take charge and try to arrange for your expenses to be minimized, such as asking for a month or so of forgiveness on the payments for house or credit cards, to give yourself time to find a new job.

Good luck, and I'm keeping you in my thoughts.
49 year old female attorney, diagnosed UC/pancolitis 1985, no surgery but much suffering.
Asacol/5ASA 6x400 mg maintenance for 20+ years; use prednisone & Rowasa for flares. 
August 2008 sought care of naturopathic doctor. Food sensitivity test showed wheat/gluten, other intolerances; started diet without gluten, soy, dairy, tomato etc. Probiotics (Ultimate Flora, 50 billion). Doing much better, but still having some bad days. 

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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry you lost your job. I have never had any luck "making" myself calm down. We're not made of stone and feeling emotionally uncomfortable is really hard to avoid completely. It is important to accept those feelings I believe.

If you can, try to get yourself moving forward as soon as possible despite that stress inside you and you might feel better about things. In the meantime, to protect your health, it is most important to eat regularly and well. Drink plenty of water and get as much sleep as possible. Also call/see your GI if your symptoms persist to review your medication options.
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 Culturelle Probiotic - prilosec - metamucil capsules
past rx: colozal, lialda, canasa
i can't complain, but sometimes i still do.  lifes been good to me so far.  -joe walsh

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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:28 AM (GMT -6)   
thanks you guys!! im feeling a little better. ive been in remission for a while now i just hope its not gonna come back. i only had a bit of diareah this morning and no urgency at all today except a bit of gas. maybe ill feel better tomorow! i just have to tell myself everything will be alright and i will find a new job! money will be tight for a while. thank god my boyfriend works forthe government! but i knwo ill find something else. thanks for making me feel better!!!
- 23 year old female, Gatineau, Quebec
 -diagnosed with UC june 2007 panacolitis
- Asacol (6 daily)800mg
- Salofalk (1 at bedtime) 1000mg

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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:41 AM (GMT -6)   
You are going to be A-ok. Folks have made some great suggestions; and I too remember being in a credit crunch at one point in my life and I asked to make partial payments on credit cards and a car loan. They were very willing to help; as a matter of fact I was told they'd rather receive some...than none. Take care....

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