Ok - observations from the senior - Grandmother - and wife of 48 years in August!
Unforunately, we can't turn our love off and on at will. I also loved someone else at age 19. He "dumped" me - I know what it is to love and lost - can't say I ever really got over him - just moved on. I found my wonderful husband at age 21 and he was 25. Luckily, no health problems for years - nothing serious - but once I had hepatitis and it really tested his love for me. I knew it wouldn't always be wonderful - no marriage or life is. He has had a lot more problems than I have - heart attack, triple bypass, AAA repair, COPD now and stage 4 lung cancer - currently in remission for 9 months. I just love him with all my heart - he is my best friend (very important) and when the chips are down - I make him laugh if I can! We do concede that he makes a better patient and me a better "caregiver". He will always be there for me. However, he does not like to talk about my colon (or his) so I only discuss when I have to. He goes to gastro doc with me after scopes, etc. and listens. I so appreciate everyone here helping me as I am a little "old" for this disease to start.
There is someone like that out there for all of you - I would hate to be alone but I would not take any verbal or any kind of abuse!!