It is impossible to encourage someone to quit smoking. They have to want to do it for themselves. My own mother wouldn't quit for me when I used to beg her to, and she didn't even quit when my son was born (even though my mother-in-law did). And my mother is the most considerate and loving person I know. It was only when her brother had a heart attack in his 40's and she concurrently learned that she had very high cholesterol that she actually did quit. Sometimes it takes a good slap in the face like that to make someone do it.
I wish I could be more positive, because I totally understand your frustration with wanting this person to stop. Nothing upset me more than watching my mom blantantly disregard her health for years. I hope your loved one finds the inspiration to quit. As for your part, it doesn't hurt to give as much information as you can about
the negative effects of smoking as well as helpful information on how to quit (books, programs, etc.). Good luck!
DX: Pancolitis as of 9/08 (Proctitis as of 1/08) and IBS
Current Treament: Spinach/Sunflower Seed Diet
Previous Treatment: Canasa suppositories, Cortifoam, Prednisone, Colazal, Symex DuoTabs, Rowasa, Bentyl, Cortenema, Asacol, Iron, Zoloft, Acidophilus.