I can totally identify with the low sex drive. I've been fighting this flare since last June, and it really took a toll on all aspects of my life - including my sex drive. It was non-existant most of the time. As I started feeling better, my sex drive would get better. I know the low sex drive bothered my boyfriend a lot. He took it very personal, even though i assured him that it was not him at all. I'm sure it was a combination of the meds, the fatigue, and overall just feeling poorly. The last thing I wanted to do was have sex when I was all bloated and going to the bathroom more than anything. What if I had to stop in the middle and run to the bathroom? Or what if I let some gas go during the act? Or what if my stomach made those wonderful gurgling noises? Not to mention being in pain and just being exhausted....
Give him some time. Be supportive and assure him that you understand. Be affectionate, but let him make the call about
being intimate. He'll come around once he's feeling better.
Diagnosed w/IBS: Oct. 2006
Diagnosed w/UC: Jan. 2007 (proctitis), July 2008 (pancolitis)
Canasa (helped the first flare when it was just proctitis); Rowasa enemas (did not help as the following colonoscopy confirmed pancolitis); Lialda ( 2 pills in the morning, 2 pills in the evening, soon to be 2 pills in the morning only once I'm off steriods); Prednisone; Protonix (only took while on prednisone); Remicade infusions, started at 5mg/kg, increased in March to 7.5mg/kg (started Aug 2008 - 6 infusions so far, next infusion on 4/30 continuing every 8 weeks); Zyrtec-D (for allergies); Toprol (a generic form, 25 mg, for a rapid heart rate)
Supplements: Women's One-a-day multi-vitamin; Super B-complex w/vitamin C,
Iron supplements, Omega-3 Fish Oil (coated, not sure how much except one soft-gel daily), Aloe Vera supplement (currently taking one daily, will increase to two soon)
Diet: Spinach and Sunflower seed butter diet (starting 3/22/09)
Current Status: Reached remission for a few weeks in October 2008, but symptoms returned after I allowed myself to enjoy wine again.... gave up wine and have not been in full remission again yet.