It breaks my heart when I hear of kids that have this stupid disease! I thought it was bad enough to get it at 18, but I couldn't imagine having it any earlier.
I'd go with the surgery. We don't know what the long-term side effects of Remicade are and there's a strong possibility he'll have to be on it for years. Personally, I'm not comfortable being on Remicade long-term, so I've decided to only take it for a year and then see what happens.
If he's doing horrible right now, you might want to get a couple Remicade infusions to make him stronger for surgery.
Female, Age 20
9 Asacol, Rowasa, 1000 mg Canasa, Proctofoam, Rifaximin 2/day
Digestive Advantage (Crohn's & Colitis), 1 Florastor, 50 mg 6MP, 1 Primadophilus reuteri, Remicade (6 infusions), 2.4 g Lialda, Forvia, 6 Colazal, 1 Anucort, Culturelle, Fish Oil, Calcium/Vit D supplement, 20 mg Prozac, VSL #3 DS, Turmeric