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jays_fan
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   Posted 5/4/2009 2:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi. So, I used to be a pretty avid track athlete (and snowboarding, but that's not germaine). Started track when I quit baseball. Sucked at first, worked hard, and got better. Got good, not great. Kept it up for three years of high school. Trained year-round. In my third year, I had my first bout of UC right during the middle of meet season. Didn't know what was wrong, was forced to pull out. Lost 20 some pounds. Finally got diagnosed and went into remission. Trained hard and gained that weight back and then some. Had a second flare-up at the end of snowboard season. Was forced to miss the provincial championships, b/c of fatigue, sudden weight loss, and long travelling time. The flare-up continued, died down, and then just recently began to flare again. Here's my problem:

I want to quit track for the time being and take it up again when I get healthty. All that training I did from last July to February is lost. I lost all that weight again in this recent flare-up. I tried to exercise through it this time, but I seemed to just lose weight faster. The main HS meets are a couple weeks away. I don't want to do them. I'm frankly terrified of embarrassing myself. As a kid, I used to have terrible performance anxiety. It went away as I trained hard and became more confident. I feel like that skinny 13 year-old stepping up against a 17 year-old pitcher again. I feel like I'm back there again. I'm out of my league. All my friends have matured up and bulked up just with age. Instead I lost weight. One UC flare up knocked out seven months of training; I used to sprint ten 100s every other day. I can't complete one now.

Anyways, I told my parents and I got the, "Are you just gonna give up hope and quit? Winners don't quit, Quitters don't win..." speech in entirety again for the first time since I was thirteen. I think I should be old enough to make that decision (I'm 18). The only thing stopping me is my mom is threatening to send all my teachers and coaches an email explaining that I gave up and babied out. She does stuff like that. She's been very upset since I got diagnosed. She thinks I'm using UC as an excuse to be lazy. She's also upset I don't have a prom date fttb, but I don't even want to think about asking anyone out when my self-esteem has shot so low. Moreover, I deliberately missed the form hand-in (sort of, I was sick with a flare-up and said screw it) so I didn't have to go through this but now they want to pressure the coach to pull some strings with the board to let me be on the team.

Advice?

Post Edited (jays_fan) : 5/4/2009 1:56:03 PM (GMT-6)


fruitgirl
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   Posted 5/4/2009 2:54 PM (GMT -6)   
While it's pretty common knowledge that light exercise can be helpful with UC, I doubt that it's a good idea to do the kind of intensive training that's necessary to compete in track (or any other sport, for that matter) when you're in a flare. I can't imagine that it's good for your body. I could barely take care of myself when I was in the midst of my first flare, so I can't even begin to imagine running!

I think you should sit down with your parents and be brutally honest about how bad your UC symptoms are, then maybe they'll understand. Tell you mom that it's completley and totally unfair to call you lazy. Or, invite her to come on here and read some of our stories. We could create a special thread just for her to read! Perhaps schedule an appointment with your GI and have him tell your mom all about UC and how bad the symptoms can be, or find some good info on the internet and ask her to read it. As to her emailing your teachers and coaches, that's just ridiculous. You should, however, explain to your coach why you quit.

I'm sorry you're not getting a lot of support from your parents. UC is a hard disease to live with and to accept that you have. We're all here for you!
Symptoms began in November 2008, ~4 weeks after giving birth to my son.
Eased for ~3 weeks in December, possibly b/c of probiotic use?
Returned in January 2009 (with a vengeance), diagnosed with pancolitis on January 30.
Currently taking Asacol (400mg 4 pills 3x daily), Rowasa nightly, Culturelle probiotic, and Zoloft (25 mg).


quincy
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   Posted 5/4/2009 2:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Do what you need to do for YOURSELF. Others cannot understand that the excess pushing of the body to compete also can exacerbate an autoimmune disease. It's stress of a different kind that's required to go over and above what the body may not be able to handle.

If your body is telling you to slow down, you have to do so.

If your mind is thinking guilt, you will only exacerbate your symptoms because you may not feel in control....it's the others who are telling you you're a loser, not a winner, etc.

They'll have to deal with their own disappointment....you have to deal with yours.

You're not quitting forever, you don't know what's available for you if your perception changes.

I've turned down interpreting jobs because of how I feel on a daily basis...as well, I'd have to give up my hair clients because I couldn't do both well enough without the added distress of "comfort".

The relief to say no is tenfold....and I have no regrets. My goal is to stay as well as I can mentally and physically. Not to say the mentally staying well doesn't take effort...it's what takes the most effort.

Using terms like babied out, quitter, loser, lazy...etc....is counterproductive, but I've used them a lot.

A break is good for you to rethink your future strategies. It's not to say you cannot go back, it's to say you need to get feeling better so that it's not what's controlling your every thought.

Seeing a counsellor might be a good thing for you to do to help sort out your thoughts.

Remember, the others have invested in you for their goals. You have to invest in you for YOUR goals....make them and see how it can all work for you.

quincy


*Heather* Status: mild flare enemas tapered to every 2nd night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~UC meds: Asacol (3 x2 daily); Salofalk enemas nightly for flares & taper to maintenance 
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed; Ranitidine (reflux);  Effexor XR 75mg(depression);  Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma) 
~vitamins/minerals/supplementsProbiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls, Natural Factors Ultimate). @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed; started Omega 3 
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS"  worth it !!!
 


jays_fan
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   Posted 5/4/2009 3:00 PM (GMT -6)   
They're supportive and they're not. They do stuff for me when I'm in the flare and help a lot. But during remission they expect me to buckle down and be Superman. Hop back in school, finish everything I missed, catch up, and go back to sports. Something's gotta give. School's more important in my opinion, and sports can wait until I'm fully in remission and can start heavy training again. I'm sort of stuck in stasis right now. Bad diarrhea, but no cramps and only 4-5 times a day. I know they want what they think is best for me, but they don't consider what I think is best for me.

quincy
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   Posted 5/4/2009 3:11 PM (GMT -6)   
So, what do you want to do about it? I'm not clear. Maybe a mediator is a good thing to consider...maybe your coach at school can help?

q
*Heather* Status: mild flare enemas tapered to every 2nd night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~UC meds: Asacol (3 x2 daily); Salofalk enemas nightly for flares & taper to maintenance 
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed; Ranitidine (reflux);  Effexor XR 75mg(depression);  Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma) 
~vitamins/minerals/supplementsProbiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls, Natural Factors Ultimate). @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed; started Omega 3 
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS"  worth it !!!
 


jays_fan
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 12
   Posted 5/4/2009 3:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I dunno. I guess I'm just venting. I'd like to have the help of a mediator but I have too much guilt to ask my coach. Maybe a school counselor. Worse comes to worse, fake an injury (might not have to fake it if I keep training like this), although that would make me feel really guilty :). Sports seem like a common dilemma for people with UC. Just wondering what adivce people who have gone through this before might have.

quincy
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   Posted 5/4/2009 3:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Yep, a school counsellor would be an awesome choice. Faking an injury...well, you probably won't have to fake if your flare increases. You maybe need a note from your doctor to take a year off????

I haven't gone through "this" before....but the strategies are the same in most situations. I do understand the plight you're experiencing, and how you may feel you owe your parents to be productive in an area you excel at.

Hope you're able to work it out in some way so that you feel better soon.

Life is a crisis...it's learning how to deal that's the problem.

quincy
*Heather* Status: mild flare enemas tapered to every 2nd night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~UC meds: Asacol (3 x2 daily); Salofalk enemas nightly for flares & taper to maintenance 
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed; Ranitidine (reflux);  Effexor XR 75mg(depression);  Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma) 
~vitamins/minerals/supplementsProbiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls, Natural Factors Ultimate). @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed; started Omega 3 
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS"  worth it !!!
 


Peety
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   Posted 5/4/2009 4:52 PM (GMT -6)   
It seemed sports were SO important to my sisters and their kids. I've got nothing against sports, but they spent so much time and MONEY on team sports. Also important, their kids driving really nice cars. But they didn't save for college!
I ask them, will traveling to these games, winning or losing, or having that sporty new car in high school -- high school! -- matter in their lives 5 or 10 years from now??

Will whether you participated in this sport or not matter in 5 years??

Try golf. That's a sport that's a good investment to learn. Since you have natural athletic ability, it will come easy to you...
49 year old female attorney, diagnosed UC/pancolitis 1985, no surgery but much suffering. Asacol/5ASA 6x400 mg maintenance for 20+ years; used prednisone & Rowasa for flares. 
August 2008 sought care of naturopathic doctor. Food sensitivity test showed wheat/gluten, other intolerances; eliminated wheat/gluten from my diet. Probiotics (Ultimate Flora, 50 billion). 
Bad flare in March, used prednisone. Humira denied, started Remicade 4/12 and doing great~ 


FitzyK23
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   Posted 5/4/2009 11:39 PM (GMT -6)   
As a former track athlete I kind of hear ya. I was not diagnosed in high school but had diarrhea problems. Our coach would drop us off 4 miles away from school and have us run back. I was always afraid I wouldn't make it. Here is the thing, even track is a team sport. Each event needs x number of people to compete. Explain to your parents that it is not fair to your teammates for you to make a committment you might not be able to keep. What if you are doing great and then flare before a championship? Tell them that it takes a stronger man to think about others first than it does to think about yourself. Now, to prove you are not lazy, you could still go work out w/ your former team mates when you feel up to it. Swing by practices and run along with them. Just don't be "on the team." Go and cheer them on when you can. I'd really like to drop a laxative in your mom's coffee, while she is at work, in front of her peers, and then take her out to a field, with all of them there, and say ok, nearest bathroom is a quarter mile away. Don't be a baby.
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 


FitzyK23
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   Posted 5/4/2009 11:41 PM (GMT -6)   
PS: What state are you in? Maybe you can find a prom date here :)
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 


Peety
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   Posted 5/5/2009 10:16 PM (GMT -6)   
That would be funny, give your mother laxatives. For like a month. Evil, but funny. Never tell.
49 year old female attorney, diagnosed UC/pancolitis 1985, no surgery but much suffering. Asacol/5ASA 6x400 mg maintenance for 20+ years; used prednisone & Rowasa for flares. 
August 2008 sought care of naturopathic doctor. Food sensitivity test showed wheat/gluten, other intolerances; eliminated wheat/gluten from my diet. Probiotics (Ultimate Flora, 50 billion). 
Bad flare in March, used prednisone. Humira denied, started Remicade 4/12 and doing great~ 


Bennie
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   Posted 5/6/2009 7:15 AM (GMT -6)   

jays_fan, does your coach (and the school) know about your UC? One of the first things we did when my daughter got sick was to let them know. She's not on any sports teams but very involved in the music department. Once they were on board with the situation (flares/no flares, good days/bad days, not knowing how you will feel day-by-day) they were very understanding and tried to work with her.

Maybe you can "unofficially" be part of the team. Train with them as much as you can but not compete. This way you get the training in when you are feeling well and the team does not have to rely on you to make it the best they can be. In some ways you would be a benchwarmer but it would still keep you in it a bit. Just make sure the coach (and team) and your parents know that there may be days you aren't physically up to the training. That would give you the option to sit out, not show up, or training at a slower pace.

As the parent of a (former) UCer, you hate to see your child sick. You want them to have as perfect a life as possible. And sometimes it's the parent's responsibility to push. I know after Bratcat had been in a flare for awhile, I would have to push her to get to school even though she wasn't feeling great. She was better but not great. Sometimes you have to push past that feeling. However, not being part of the track team does not mean you are quitting! This stupid disease has taken its toll on you physically and emotionally. You are also at a crossroads in your life, so to speak. Almost out of high school. Planning for the next step. That is an emotionally rollercoaster ride for the average, healthy teenager.

As for prom, I'm a big believer of participating in the "traditional high school stuff". Why look back in 10-20-30 years and regret not going to the prom. Bring a friend. Make it casual. And as Fitzy said, maybe we can find you a prom date here! My daughter's a senior and she's is still looking for a date! (She's gonna kill me if she reads this shocked )

Talk to someone (maybe the school counselor). Venting away here is good too. You need to sort through all your feelings and options. Feel good soon.


--Mom of bratcat (18 years old) and nonamejames (20 years old)--
Daughter bratcat was diagnosed with pancolitis October 2006
Flared Fall 2006, Fall 2007, Spring 2008
Asacol, Rowasa, hydrocortisone enemas, prednisone, 6-mp, Remicade
7/3/08-Step 1 j-pouch surgery and no more meds!
11/10/08-Step 2 reconnect! Living and loving life as a teenager should!
 
Son nonamejames was diagnosed with Crohns in Spring 2008
Asacol, Pentasa, 6-mp


UC Mom
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   Posted 5/6/2009 8:20 AM (GMT -6)   
jays_fan. First of all, I am so sorry you have UC. My son is also 18 with UC. He plays lacrosse, and had a great senior year, thanks to 6MP. He played on a travel team last year, and rode in a van with the team to PA, all the way from SC. We were both totally stressed. With some Immodium, he did it. Sometimes you do have to push, but I agree with Bennie. We chose to tell the coach, school nurse, teachers, etc. just to make it easy on my son. This disease is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, I want to bring greater awareness to everyone who is not familiar with UC. You need to take control, do what you can, and if you can't run, don't do it. As far as the prom, my son skipped it. I wanted him to go, and he said it was too expensive, and he isn't seeing anyone special. He wanted a new lacrosse stick instead:):) Hang in there, and feel better soon. You are not alone.
UC Mom
Son diagnosed 10, 2006 at age 15
6MP 75 mg. per day
Culturelle


Lonie
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   Posted 5/6/2009 8:35 AM (GMT -6)   
You've had some great advice from many of our wise forum members...and best of all some our of wonderful and supportive mothers whose children suffer(ed) with UC. Just wanted to pop in and also offer my support to you -- this is a great place to vent and get some good advice. Welcome, and keep us updated on how you are doing!

Carol

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