Hi Diana....you're far from alone in the anger department...and it's no use to compare yourself to others as your measuring stick for what you should and should not perceive as being bad enough.
UC can be very managable...but that doesn't mean you won't have to adjust your life somewhat or have to take meds or have flares, etc.
I will at this time say you aren't on enough medication. You should add rectal meds to your regimen...If you're in the US, Rowasa retention enemas are what I'd suggest. If you're not, there are Pentasa and Salofalk enemas in Canada and the same two plus Asacol enemas in the UK and Australia.
I see you're going Vegan....hope you get enough protein, because that can be part of the cause of your fatigue.
Have you had your thyroid checked as well as Vitamin B12, Vitamin D and iron?
Part of the issue may be mild depression....the fact that you have much going on in your immediate family with serious illness can take a lot of one's emotions and possible need to shut down a bit.
You're very busy with working full time plus having a boyfriend and just the recuperating aspect of being emotional and dealing with a flare and a new diagnosis requires much rest.
Changing your routines and allowing yourself time helps a lot. Once you start to feel better, you can add more things.
It's great you're dancing (awesome emotional upper), and doing TKD..but they all require a lot of stamina and while healing, sometimes it's just not there.
Make sure you're getting enough to eat/calories to keep your energy levels up.
Maybe do walks instead of more strenuous activities for a while and eventually, you'll get back to feeling like the old you.
The fact you have mild UC is a good thing....your goal is to keep it as such, hence my urge to get on rectal meds as well.
Hang tough...it's a bumpy ride, either a lot or a little.
*Heather* Status: maintenance Asacol 6 daily + Salofalk enemas every 3rd night
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~UC meds: Asacol (3 x2 daily); Salofalk enemas nightly for flares & taper to maintenance
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed; Ranitidine (reflux); Effexor XR 75mg(depression); Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~vitamins/minerals/supplements; Probiotics....(Natural Factors Protec, Primadophilus Reuteri Pearls). @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!