Oh, and one more thing.
If surgery is the option, then one can opt for a permanent ileo (which I did) or you can go the j-pouch route. I know many people are successful with both scenarios. The secret to being happy afterward is to really make the best decision for 'you'. I know it's a status quo thing to be as normal as possible, so that means going to the bathroom as normal as possible. But you know? I've been traumatized with the darned toilet and the pain I experienced, so why in the world would make having to go poo a priority? That's just me. I made the decision to never go poo again, and I have never regretted it. In fact, once my super hectic schedule starts to slow down just a bit, I'm going to focus on my designer accessory covers. I call my appliance my accessory, and my stoma's name is Penelope. I have tried very hard to individualize my situation and make it the best for me and my lifestyle. There are plenty of accessory covers out there, but mine are going to be designer and just absolutely awesome! I do have to give kudos and promote a site I've found called My Heart Is Tied. A young woman made an amazingly beautiful piece to camaflouge one's accessory during intimate moments. It's gorgeous! I too am in the process of making covers that are personality focused and will hopefully make us feel even more comfortable with our permanent fixtures.
So, please know that surgery is a scary thought. However, I'm going to tell you that this is the happiest I have been in a very long time. I've only had Penelope five months and I feel there is literally NOTHING in my way of achieving my goals and ambitions. My UC was a constant barrier, and every day I find things that I just naturally do now without thinking that would have been a never-ever with UC.
This is just my experience. If you ever do have questions or would like to just know more about this lifestyle, please hop onto the ostomy forum and read around...ask questions if you want.
Happy Independence Day!!!!!!
: ) Robin