Hi everyone...thank you for the words of support and kind sentiments. I must clear one thing up...her sisters put a small and most humble obit into the newspaper. The other sister who had breast cancer spread throughout her body as well died 2 weeks before she did (I thought it was only one week but was incorrect). They put an obit for her as well...again, small...and maybe saw it as being fair to each other..etc.
She did deserve recognition, albeit she was a control freak orchestrating situations to work out at the frustration of others. She had a quirky perspective of how life worked....but she did a lot for my mom (lived next door) long before and during her death. I will always appreciate that.
I guess I don't know for sure if she ever said she didn't want an obit...but no one admitted that as of yet.
She was a massage therapist, cranial sacral therapist...and all the other stuff that truly helped me heal from some of my physical ordeals. She had a caring spirit but gave up much of her time for others...but could truly be a pain in the butt sometimes. One had to work hard at understanding what "planet" she was on from time to time.
I and another friend/client will take her daughter (also a client) out for a supper in honour of her...to a restaurant we all went to. I think we'll share some stories and air out some frustrations, give a toast and conclude that life goes on.
Regarding my flare...today was definitely better. The salofalk has started to work its magic rather quickly and the bentylol is again doing its thing.
Yep...I'm nipping it in the "butt"...lol fruitgirl..changed it a bit.
Carol...my colon might have heard your threat!! yikes
LOL Rio...I'll take that to heart too...both ends definitely working better.
Joy....I cannot or wouldn't want to imagine having to deal with all your boyfriend's mom is, and I think I'll start back on the Wii Fit tomorrow!!!!
Sherry...she had surgeries, chemo, radiation, etc for 3 years. It was a long haul, but with her way of making it all seem OK...life continued as normal.
Old Hat....that's pretty cool you did that for your friend....something I never thought about
I agree to not be angry...I think just dealing with death in general but with not a lot of experience, it tends to be confusing. There are also many in their 50s that have been dying..and it puts one's mortality in perspective.
I think it's more fear than anger...but trying to figure it out through venting has worked and others' perspectives helps as well.
I'm looking forward to a better week starting Monday..LOL!
Hope you all have a good weekend...
*Heather* Status: flaring...Asacol 3 twice daily; Salofalk enemas nightly
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~UC meds: Asacol (3 @ 2x daily); Salofalk enemas nightly for flares & taper to maintenance
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed; Ranitidine (reflux); Effexor XR 75mg(depression); Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~vitamins/minerals/supplements; Probiotics....(RenewLife Ultimate Flora Critical Care + Primadophilus Reuteri). @ bedtime
~various digestive enzymes as needed
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!
Post Edited (quincy) : 7/17/2009 10:32:46 PM (GMT-6)