Ditto to JayBee's last post. It's so normal to get in a cycle of self-loathing when you feel crappy - but you know, and need to reassure yourself, that it's only a fleeting feeling - it has nothing to do with your real beauty and value on this earth! I know I have felt like "damaged-goods" and couldn't understand why my husband willingly deals with this. He tries to assure me, but it does take faith when you are feeling low. Keep the faith, my friend. I don't know why your mom would say such a sabotaging statement to you - but be assured, true love goes so far beyond bathroom habits!
If water isn't helping, please consider adding Magnesium to your diet. Calcium blocks absorption of Magnesium, so many people are low in it (even though they may not have optimal calcium either). Among other things, it relaxes smooth muscles; i.e., helps the kiki slide!
Many on here have benefited from the Spinach/sunflower seed diet, which among other benefits supplies a good dose of magnesium.
Of course, too much isn't good for D in UC, but a bit from whole foods probably will be gentle enough on your system and might be just what you need.
I also agree with yummy coconut oil (not water). I love the stuff - I eat it instead of butter on toast, I use it as body lotion, hair treatment, anything I can think of. The fresh, extra-virgin stuff smells and tastes so good!
diagnosed with UC in Feb 2007
taking 12 Asacol/day since then
take Rowasa enema as needed
Mega-dosing on iron due to anemia
Have tried dozens of alternate remedies:
glutamine, sunflower/spinach, omega3, Ayurveda, reflexology, herbal prescriptions, blood allergy testing (avoiding dairy and eggwhites), tried no nightshades, tried SCD (not very strict to be honest), tried Guts to Glory program, briefly tried David Klein diet, mega-probiotics, probiotic enemas, slippery elm enemas, etc. etc.
I know that the right combination for what my tender tummy needs is out there!