Yes for me too the urgency and accidents are a major reason for thinking about
surgery. I could deal the the many bathroom visits since I have always gone to the bathroom alot, it is the not making it to the bathroom and wondering what I will do if I am out in public and I have an accident. I could deal with it if I just had to go to the bathroom and had time to get to one.
I am thinking about going with a j pouch since I do not want to have a bag and it would feel more normal then having a bag. I have had a bag before and it was not a big deal but I imagine I would get tired of it eventually and regret not getting the J pouch. My UC is only in the last 10 inces or so of my colon, I worry about pouchitis but then again I do not see a reason why I would have that problem.