I've been through some bad flares myself with many accidents, that I even wore the babies diaper every time I went out so I know exactly how you feel and I have three kids.
Can you get a perscription for rectal enemas some of us prefer the mesalamine ones and others like the cortisone enemas. I prefer hycort it seems to work quicker for me. Cortifoam would be good to ask for as well so you can use the foam during the day and the enema at night. If your not treating from the other end its hard to get to all the inflammation.
If your not on any probiotics try to start taking them a couple times a day to replace the good bacteria that is being wiped out everyday by all the BM's. I like Bio-k PLus and Renew LIfe Ultimate Critical Care both have different strains so I go between the two of them.
I use melatonin when I have trouble sleeping at night, its not habit forming and it works pretty good.
Try to rest if you can when the baby is, the more run down we get the worse I think our symptoms get.