it's no secret im hugely pro surgery! and i know it's scary, but if she is ready and she is tired of feeling horrible all the time, then that's what she is ready for. i was 21 when i got sick and i wasted 8years of my life, all my 20's with that colon! I wish i wouldn't have done that, i should have kicked that thing to the curb and beat UC right away!
It's normal to be scared, and normal to worry, there are a lot of unknowns about it, and there are things that can go wrong. When i chose, i looked at it like this, i KNEW i hated me life, i KNEW i was miserable with UC, and i might hate life after surgery, but i had read so many positve things about it, and i knew that whether i hated life with a bag or not, i would have least beat UC and won! and i wouldn't be on all those dangerous drugs anymore. i read all about it, i read these forums, i looked at pictures, and really thought about it and realized that was the only way i would be happy. and i am, i love my bag! i chose against jpouch, but that's a great way to go too.
The best thing is my life isn't controled by a bathroom anymore and i feel sooo much better!
I hate that she even has to be in this postion, and i hope that she makes a decision that makes her happy, whether it's trying other drugs or surgery.