It's easier to accept things when we feel we're in control, especially if we have more than only one option to pick....so lots of options are a key factor.
So, for me, having medications to deal with flares allows me that personal "freedom" to not depend on my doctor as much. But, if things are a bit out of the ordinary, I can make an appointment to touch base and confirm treatment and have things checked out further if needed.
I'm not looking for a cure....that could be part of acceptance.
I've also had physical/emotional problems forever, so there's not a day that goes by without me having to "deal".
Therapy helped me deal with family/emotional issues, so indirectly acceptance of things in general was part of it.
Accepting doesn't mean failure. Realistically, we're not perfect beings, and we're flawed by nature just by existing in this world.
I personally get ticked at having to stick medication/preparations in practially every orifice of my body or on my body to deal with some sort of malady, be it minor or major. It's a total pain to be so self focused.....AND it takes up a lot of time, causing more aggravation.
You have to ask yourself....what will I have forever, what can I treat, what will eventually go away, what can I maintain...blah, blah.
It's personal choice. It's OK to be angry, but one has to move forward at the same time. If you use your whole life to focus on something that has to be maintained beyond a reasonable quality of life, changes should be made.
You can change your perspective at any time, for what you don't know today, you will tomorrow.
Set up a good support network. Be realistic.
It's an ongoing process....what I know today is so much more than what I did before I was diagnosed. Once diagnosis, having a good doctor who answered questions, I was even better yet. But, there were other issues that happened along the way, and I had to deal with them as well. Eventually the UC aspect or the physical aspects were easy because I learned what to do.
Now, if dealing with a cold could be just as easy, and it's something everyone gets, but gets me in a state I absolutely hate...because I'm so miserable having a cold! I'd much rather have a flare.
*Heather* I give suggestions, do with them what you will.
Status: ...Asacol 3 @ 2x daily; Salofalk enema @ 3rd night (nightly/ flares, tapered/maintenance)
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~Bentylol 20mg as needed; Zantac 150mg; Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma);Effexor XR 37.5 (depression)
~vitamins/minerals/supplements; Probiotics....(RenewLife Ultimate Flora Critical Care+Primadophilus Reuteri capsules @ bedtime)
~Metamucil capsules 6 twice daily with meals; Vitamin D 4500 IU
~URSO for PBC(or PSC?) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!
Post Edited (quincy) : 11/28/2011 2:04:05 PM (GMT-7)