Ulcerative Colitis & Gay Sex

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   Posted 2/12/2012 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been recently diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis, after experiencing symptoms for the past 4 months. Are there any other gay men with UC out there, willing to share their experiences/comments regarding intimacy, sex and relationships?

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   Posted 2/12/2012 6:53 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm hoping that some other gay men will share their experiences with UC.

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   Posted 2/12/2012 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sure others will be around to answer questions but this is an issue which has been discussed. You can do a search at the top of the page. Most of what I have read has been post surgical stuff re: sex with jpouch. There's also this link - perhaps you can post your questions here:

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   Posted 2/12/2012 7:14 PM (GMT -7)   
There have also been women posting on here about anal sex. I think you could do a search. Or be patient. Hopefully someone will come along with helpful advice. In general, when I'm feeling ill I'm not interested in sex of any kind. This chronic illness is hard on relationships, gay or straight. Intimacy is tough when one partner feels like they've been hit by a truck. Or crampy. Or unclean. Or sore.
49 yrs old, IBD diagnosis in spring '01. Proctitis, gastritis, ileitis.
Currently taking Pentasa (3g/day)Colazal (9 pills/day), Sulfazine (1.5 g/day), Prevacid, folic acid, vit. D (2K iu), flax seed oil (2 tsp/day), mesalamine enema as needed. Gluten free as of 5/30/11.

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   Posted 2/12/2012 7:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Here are some previous threads. hope it helps.

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   Posted 2/12/2012 11:13 PM (GMT -7)   
hey toronto123
I can totally relate to you, I'm also in Toronto too
I'm glad you brought this up because it's obviously something on my mind too
Having the disease definitely has not helped in the intimacy area and I can say I guess my confidence was hit the most in dealing with the two.

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   Posted 2/13/2012 5:43 AM (GMT -7)   
I am current engaged and been in relationship for over 5 years now. I have talked to my doctor about this and he says anal sex is fine. He said just don't get to out of hand with any hard pounding and you should be fine. I have UP not UC so you would think i could never have sex but this is not the case. You just need to be smart with everything, if you see excess blood then you need to stop. It helps that my partner is very understanding of everything and works through this with me. For the longest time i have thought that my lifestyle was the cause of the problem but after a lot of research i have found this is not the case.

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   Posted 2/13/2012 10:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm a straight woman who loves anal sex. The first question out of my mouth after my colonoscopy, while still partially sedated, when my doctor said, "Thankfully, you don't have cancer. It's ulcerative colitis", was: Can I have anal sex?

He said no, unequivocally.

Since then, I've thought periodically about calling Dan Savage's podcast line and asking him. It's not that I don't trust my doctor, and here I am in San Francisco, where you would think that most people would have open minds. It's just that I don't want to assume there's only one answer.

My problem is that I seem to always be in one of two predicaments. Either I'm in a flare and I don't want any stimulation of my rectum, or I'm not in a flare and I am scared to do anything at all that would in any way irritate my rectum.

I miss anal sex more than I can say. But I also have been involved for the last few years with a lovely man who is understanding and accommodating about everything. Except that over the course of time, I've learned that he is much happier with arranging our sex life in a way that is different from how we started out. So I've become more passive and let him take the lead, and that means no anal sex even if it were an option.

Sometimes I feel like this disease has turned me into someone I don't recognize and this is one of the ways it has done that.
dx 4/09 (1 week before breast cancer dx) with mild to moderate UC through mid-transverse colon
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