I'm a straight woman who loves anal sex. The first question out of my mouth after my colonoscopy, while still partially sedated, when my doctor said, "Thankfully, you don't have cancer. It's ulcerative colitis", was: Can I have anal sex?
He said no, unequivocally.
Since then, I've thought periodically about calling Dan Savage's podcast line and asking him. It's not that I don't trust my doctor, and here I am in San Francisco, where you would think that most people would have open minds. It's just that I don't want to assume there's only one answer.
My problem is that I seem to always be in one of two predicaments. Either I'm in a flare and I don't want any stimulation of my rectum, or I'm not in a flare and I am scared to do anything at all that would in any way irritate my rectum.
I miss anal sex more than I can say. But I also have been involved for the last few years with a lovely man who is understanding and accommodating about everything. Except that over the course of time, I've learned that he is much happier with arranging our sex life in a way that is different from how we started out. So I've become more passive and let him take the lead, and that means no anal sex even if it were an option.
Sometimes I feel like this disease has turned me into someone I don't recognize and this is one of the ways it has done that.
dx 4/09 (1 week before breast cancer dx) with mild to moderate UC through mid-transverse colon
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15g prednisone as of 2/6/12
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