Ok. I've had it with the way "normal" people treat me since I got this darn thing. What I hate most of all is being treated as if I can't do anything...I'm not dependable anymore, I'm different from others...when in fact my UC has not affected who I am or how well I can do my job. What I hate is when people victim you like this out of their own perception. It places you in a series of events. If you get treated like a victim you start acting like one.
How do you break this cycle on how other's treat you? I can't change them. People are going to think whatever they want. I tried not telling and spilling the beans. No difference if you as me. If someone see you have medical issues and don't even know what it is they form their own conclusion anyway. The only solution I can think of is to get away from the people victimizing me to break to cycle. Sometimes you need to start off fresh somewhere else. I feel my reputation has going down the drain.
How do you handle being victimized by others?
How are you victimized? By your own family? Friends? Can people tell you have colitis just by looking at you?
Its very easy to just 'settle' into what could be a potential UC lifestyle, and that is to become a hypochondriac about
everything. Conversations become bleak, the personality is shot and once you have the opportunity to
open a door, it seems like a long shot.
This is just in our own eyes, and we
definitely can do things others cant, and we sure as hell can learn to appreciate life for all that it is, while living with this condition. Personally, i feel like I get special treatment by my mom, but she says different, saying that its all situational, and that my sisters also went through hell with certain things in their lives that required special attention or treatment, and it won't always be like this.
I think to become victimized, you have to stop believing in yourself -that you can get better, that quality of life will improve and that you will surprise yourself someday on how well you can heal through time. I share an attitude that is like many of you on the forum, but I also feel really deep inside me, that things will change for the better, that I won't always feel this way, and will feel whole again. :)