I was very lucky that my grandparents took custody of me when I was 8, because of the drinking, as awesome as my mom was, there was no parenting going on there.
My meyer lemon thing is from my mom - we used to just sit and eat the things when they were in season!
First, I'm sorry about
your mom. I lost my dad to an aortal aneurysm when he was in his late 50's.
One thing that I am very thankful for is that I stopped drinking before I met my wife and we had kids. None of them have ever known the active alcoholic me.