Hey everyone, I hope you all have been doing okay. My health has been pretty steady with my gut thanks to Remicade, although I'm still facing body aches that I take Tramadol for. These aches have not yet been identified as to a cause, but possibly relate to the mono I had and my body's lack of ability to fully rid me of it while on Remicade (Rheumatologist's thoughts).
I've had a stressful spring this year. The business I run with my dad has been full of uncertainty, and it's eaten away at our well being a lot. My dad (59 years old) is in the middle of an anxiety ridden breakdown. He's lost 20 pounds he didn't have to lose, has lost all of his confidence/manly drive, and is just a mess of emotions and physical pains from various ailments. His biggest issue is sleep apnea. He is getting help from good professionals though, thankfully.
I've been stressed pretty consistently this spring too, and it's at times effected my relationship, and my overall sense of feeling healthy and happy.
I'm trying to weigh two options. In one scenario I sell the home I live in, move to the nice apartment complex my gf lives in, and invest the money I get for my house (which is paid for) in another multi-family home to rent out. In the other scenario I stay in my home in a lake community, and feel less in control of my life and much more vulnerable to the uncertainties of work.
I already have one apartment building paid for, which brings me in half of my basic expenses living in the home. BUT, if I acquire one more and move to an apartment I will literally be able to save money before even needing to have earned income. This scenario is nice because:
-No more home upkeep, lawn maintenence etc...
-Living space is smaller so less to keep up.
-Can focus more on my dream/passion of working with real estate.
-I can approach my dad and I's business with a calm mind, and help him reach a point where he can retire.
-There is also much less stress/reaction to work issues when I know I don't even need to be there to take care of my basic needs.
-Should things go really badly with my work (which I doubt, but who knows), I can relax and take time to choose the best fit for me regarding a career.
-If I get ill, I have less responsibilities I personally have to take care of... AND I know I am taken care of financially.
***The rental properties are and would be managed, by the way. I would not deal with tenants.
Staying in my home is good because:
-I live in an awesome lake community with great neighbors that I really like.
-Right now I'm out on my back porch and I can see stars, hear frogs and crickets, and look down near the lake and see the lake homes reflecting their light off the lake.
-I wouldn't have to leave my dog with my parents permanently (which wouldn't be terrible since I'm there 5-6 days per week).
I have an internal drive that is telling me that my life will become more authentic and fulfilling if I take the chance to sell the home. I'll gain more stability in my life, be able to help my dad out more, and be able to make sound decisions regarding work and finances. I'm just trying to double check my thoughts before I act.
My girlfriend and I plan on getting engaged in the fall, and we've thought about
where we would want to live. She loves where I live, but the drive to work would be too far at this point in time. So... her and I might choose to live in an apartment together within a year anyways.
I am also in the process of buying another lot out here in the lake community at a great deal, so I would have the option of coming back if things go well.
Any thoughts are appreciated. Thank you.
28 year old male.
Dx 2003. Left sided UC, progressed to mid-transverse colon.
IBS issues complicate things for me a lot.
Remicade since 1/27/12. Clinical remission within 3 months.
----Noticeable change in how I felt after 10-11 months.
Cymbalta greatly helped IBS issues.
Tried: Mesalamines, mesalamine enemas, steroid enemas, 6mp, entocort, Imuran.
Post Edited (Thoreau) : 6/17/2013 10:16:59 PM (GMT-6)