I need help,
Welcome to the forum.
You've gotten some great advice from lookforcure.
BTW, I would suggest you use lower case letters and NOT all caps; all caps seems like you are shouting.
You have to give him the time to grieve, there's a 5 step process, and he's probably at the ANGER stage. It's normal. When I was first diagnosed I was overwhelmed with anger.
Sounds like your husband is intolerant to the mesalamines.
Make sure his doctor knows.
There are some pretty good and easy things to do to reduce symptoms, with simple supplements, probiotics, etc... and if you are interested, there are things IMO that you can control, which will have a direct impact on
your disease, the symptoms you experience and their severity.
I was able to control my UC into remission through various
supplements, probiotics, diet modification, and LDN , low dose
For more info on the protocol which has put me into remission,
please go to this link: https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=38&m=1666318 , and look at the 11th post.
I hope your husband start to feel better and let us know how we can help
you help your husband.