I figured you guys might be good to ask about
this sort of stuff... I am sure I am not the only one to experience problems with sex drive due to having a chronic illness - and now surgery.
Background: Married June 2012. Diagnosed Major Depressive Disorder Aug 2012.
Was having lack of sex drive around August 2012 as well. Got depressing under control over the winter, into Spring and sex drive was coming back April/May/June 2013 until Ulcerative Colitis struck.
Got really bad in October 2013 and have not had sex since.
In October we tried and it was painful. Though we partook in non intercourse sexual activities that time, then.
Nothing since. I have just not been interesting. At all.
I lost a lot of weight and was pretty bed ridden - lots of accidents, almost every day; going to the bathroom 15+ times a day; anemic and malnourished. I also quit having my period after October - so hormones were probably a mess as well.
So basically, I am wondering how other people with a chronic illness - especially such a non-sexy one - have managed to continue having intimacy and a sex life.
I am still having issues with pain from surgery (very little now, thought) and also mucous quite a few times a day. I also of course spend time intimately with my feces about
5 times a day- emptying my bag.
So my life isnt exactly sexy. I was feeling sexy for a little while before surgery because I was the smallest I have ever been. I lost 50lbs and was size 5. I have been a size 11-13 since basically middle school. After surgery I felt great again - having energy back and not crapping my pants all the time. I felt like a woman a bit again.
But now I am exhausted from work. Lots of stress there. And being able to do more has put more stresses on me - so I feel mentally exhausted. I did get my period again after surgery - once, for a couple days. But I know my hormones aren't right yet.
What have you guys done to help? Counseling? Hormones? Read dirty novels or watch sexy shows? ****?
I really want to start feeling THAT kind of intimacy with my husband again. He's been my caretaker and my best friend for the last 10+ months. And he's been great about
it... but I know it's unhealthy to still not want sex. Or any type of prolonged kissing.
How do I get myself to be a woman again? A sexual being? now that I'm not a poop monster wearing Depends. No more DIAPER BUTT! lol
Thanks for any help or tips. Feel free to email me if you aren't comfortable sharing your experiences on a public forum. I REALLY REALLY appreciate the help.
And sorry if anyone thinks this is TOO off topic... but really, it isnt. I know others have dealt with this - and I thank you for your responses.