What uc medications are you on or have you tried? I think getting your uc under control is the best possible resolution to many of your troubles (getting rid of accidents, urgencies, making uc have a lot lesser impact on your life). Many of us have dealt with accidents, urgencies, and the many horrible aspects of this disease (I've had my unfair share of accidents), and have had to temporarily use Imodium, depends, pads, or imodium to help through the very worst of it. I believe the key thing/solution for you is having a plan to be very aggressive and treat your uc, either through medications (such as biologics like humira or remicade, as it sounds like you have severe disease) or through surgery to get your quality of life back. We all suffer due to uc symptoms but need to have a treatment that minimalizes uc's impact on our lives. Depends, Imodium, prednisone and other such things are just bandaids for temporary use, not long-term solutions.
Regarding spouses and medical issues. Anyone can take the vow: in sickness and in health... However, some people are just not able to cope well with medical issues and living with chronic illness. I dated my DW for 4 years before we were married, and 6 months after getting married I was diagnosed with uc. We fought almost daily for many months after my uc diagnosis to the point that divorce was regularly on my mind. We're still together and things have improved greatly. However, she's still got a very low threshold for coping with medical things. For some things I know, I am just on my own, and I know from time-to-time she's going to be difficult and add stress when I least need it. Love is just a really funny thing, I guess...
Can you pull trough and mend this marriage? I don't know, but certainly trying to mend it improves the odds when you're both willing participants. If the marriage was worth having then it is certainly worth trying to fix, if possible. And it may not always be possible.
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John, 37, UC in remission
Rx: Remicade @5mgs/kg/8wks + 6MP @50mgsI had read Everybody Poops, but didn't realize that a uc diagnosis meant I'd now have to poop for everbody.
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