I can definitely empathize with you as I am currently experiencing some deterioration in relationships with some of my friends as well. As you mentioned, it can be really difficult to get out and socialize, since a lot of socialization seems to revolve around, or at least involve, food and drink that can potentially exacerbate our symptoms.
I definitely think iPoop is correct in that most young people really don't know how to respond to someone who has a chronic condition. I tend not to reveal much about
my health unless someone asks. And there have been some times when friends will text/message me to inquire what's wrong after I tell them I'm not feeling well. When I explain to them that I have UC, some of them have not said anything at all--no support or anything. There is one friend who I haven't heard from since I revealed to him that I had UC.
Though I can't say that it's entirely one's fault for not understanding. Prior to my diagnosis (about
1.5 years ago), I knew very little about
how exhausting and severe IBD can be. Since UC is still widely unknown to or misunderstood by the "healthy" population, I suppose we are going to continue to deal with people who fail to understand what we go through sometimes.
Since being diagnosed with UC, I have definitely learned who I can count on to have my back. It seems natural for a lot of people to experience some downtimes as a somewhat recent graduate/young professional. This compounded by a chronic condition can potentially be pretty difficult to deal with.
I'm not sure that this is great advice, but I've found that I tend to just talk to my friends who have been there for me and I don't try to salvage a relationship if someone doesn't understand what I'm going through. It's not that I detest them for not understanding, it's just easier for me to not surround myself with a lot of fair-weathered friends. Again, perhaps that's not helpful, but know that what you're feeling is definitely not silly. I think it's a pretty natural reaction; I believe that most people would feel similarly if they were in a similar situation.
(I promise I'm almost done with this lengthy response if you've managed to make it this far).
Exercise has also helped lift my spirits (don't really do intense stuff, but just something to take my mind off of things). Working out with some dumbbells or doing yoga in your living room can be a good way to de-stress. I was also in a city far from family and managed to get my employer to allow me to telecommute so I could be closer to family. I realize this might be a rarity, but maybe you could find some way to move closer to family if things are really bad.
Stay strong, keep your head up and I wish you the best!
23 yr. old male.
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in August 2015.
Medications tried with little or no improvement:
Canasa, Hydrocortisone enemas, Apriso, Humira, Entyvio.
Multivitamin, Fish oil, Turmeric, Vitamin D, probiotic
Currently experimenting with AIP paleo. Trying to achieve remission through any means available.
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