Posted 3/26/2017 9:53 AM (GMT -6)
I've been dating him for 3 years, he has kids and I do not. We have our own respective homes. His parents are grateful that he has met someone nice like me, but also I am great with his kids, the appreciate that. He works in the family biz. He runs the place, his parents are now in their 70's. they make him guilty if the takes time off. So I said we are going on vacation. He is only taking two days off and his mom said "oh great" very sarcastic. I have tried to get "in" with his mom and sister, she works their too, the whole family works together and mom and daughter are best friends. The daughters husband lives in another apartment and in another town, (very disfunctional arrangements) so mom and daughter do everything together.
I love my bf. we are actually of thinking of getting married at the courthouse and telling no one, it will be second marriage for both of us. We are almost 50years btw. He. Helps me with my disease , he is kind and caring.
He parents make him feel so guilty if he not working 6 days a week. this business has been passed down for three generations now.
Do we say screw them and live our lives? He can't switch jobs, this is what he knows and Is great at it. His sister doesn't have a life and works and lives at the business and her mom is her buddy there, they don't care to get to really know me. The mom is self absorb. She never asks about my family, ever. My parents, brother or sister.
Any advise folks? I'm not on any social media but this site. I have no friends in this town, but my BF. I've tried making friends here, but people are established with their groups. My bf is my best friend. I can take vacations whenever I want. My boss thinks it's great. My boss is my family here. My immediate family lives very far away. Thanks all.