I don't think I personally would bite the hand that feeds me without a backup plan, but I would explain that it's important to you that you have time to do things together. He needs to make his own decision about
how to confront and manage his parents. It's not healthy for him to work ALL the time, and no one is getting any younger, you should try to enjoy each other when you are both feeling well & you're able to. If he doesn't feel comfortable to confront his parents, it's really not your place to make him feel obligated to, after all, it sounds like that's how he pays his bills. I think getting married secretly is going to only make them angry and it could potentially make them (him included) resent you if it got in the way of the family.
If his family is unimportant to him, why would he put up with their guilting all these years? I think I'd probably just "yeah yeah" the parents and do whatever I want if i were him. What are they going to do? fire him?
I am sorry, I am bad at this type of stuff. I have no family so I can't really relate to worrying about
what parents think. I also don't understand the benefit of getting married - I will always feel like that's a pointless endeavor.
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