Oh god yeah, living with a heavy drinker is horrible. My mum was, and still is, one. I don't know about
when I was a younger child, as I don't remember, but as an older child I remember her spending Saturdays drinking all day. Funnily, for a stay at home mother, as a child I seemed to spend sod all time with my mum. On average she would get drunk about
4x a week. She tended to have designated drinking days, so on Wednesdays she would see her friend, spend all afternoon drinking with her, and come home drunk. I remember dreading her coming home sometimes, because I never knew what mood my mum would be in. She was mostly a sentimental drunk, but could turn contradictory, argumentative and self-pitying on a dime. Either way I didn't like her personality change.
Because my extended family are all big drinkers as well, nobody noticed my mum had a drinking problem. She herself would never admit it and would become extraordinarily angry and defensive if anyone suggested it (usually me, but once my brother and dad had a go at bringing it up, to disastrous effect). I never understood why my mum was so insanely defensive about
her drinking, but I think I understand it now. I think she wanted to keep up the illusion of normality, of having a - if not happy - then at least a respectable, nice middle class family. She absolutely hates other people's pity, I know that much.
Anyway, she still drinks just as often but more slowly, so while she still gets drunk, she doesn't actually become legless anymore. But I do think so much booze over the years must have changed her brain to some extent. Well, the booze and my dad (she probably started drinking to cope with my dad).
@Poppie and Clo - You've both done well to try and bring up your children differently and break the dysfunctional family cycle. It's obviously not easy, due to the fact that so many children grow up to become parents themselves and perpetuate the dysfunctional behaviour
Dx Crohn's in June 2000. (Yay )
Tried: 5-ASAs, azathioprine, 6MP, Remicade, methotrexate, Humira, diets.
1st surgery 20/2/13 - subtotal colectomy with end ileostomy.
2nd surgery 10/7/15 - ileorectal anastomosis. Stoma reversed and ileum connected to the rectum.
Current status: Chronic flare. Do I have any other kind?
Current meds: 50mg 6MP; Entyvio (started 3/11/16)