Congratulations. As a guy, I don't have any good jpouch suggestions except that j-pouch.org has a women's health section.
Have you talked to your insurance company? I'd ask for one of the insurance company's nurse coordinators to be assigned to you, maybe they can assist in getting you a new doc or even better -- getting your surgeon approved for out of network coverage.
DX'd with Severe Pancolitis June 2005
Previous Meds: 5ASAs, Predisone, 6-MP. Remicade, Humira, Simponi, Cimzia & Cyclosporine
3-step J-Pouch surgery: 2013 & 2014
Current Condition: Chronic Pouchitis -- Not as bad as I thought it would be
Current Meds: Stelara
Total Hip Replacement: 12/16 -- Thanks Prednisone!!!www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=38&m=3755226