One cannot remove negative thoughts at will or should not be told to think positively when in a state of depression or anxiety. One who is in a state of despair doesn't need more physical and mental responsibility. Those suggestions are not really (or rarely) helpful.
Talking about it does help, as does adding meds that can ease the depressive or anxious state to allow breaks in its consistency.
Having access to someone to talk to during and between episodes, as well as working to gain more information regarding medical options for UC, or other health issues, is hugely helpful for perspective... so that one doesn't remain in the cycle of being stuck in the thought of isolation and hopelessness.
TAA...you're connected here, a good thing. Yes, some have died from having UC... but those were ones who refused any medical intervention until it was too late, or by their own hand and indirectly given other circumstances. Most of us have been through the physical and mental crisis of functioning with UC while dealing with family and friends, etc. I was in therapy for a long while (severely dysfunctional family), lots of talk and Cognitive behavioural Therapy and biofeedback gave me hope to function. I have other health issues that require mental effort, but I have medical and other options that have allowed me to have some control. I'm struggling in other mental aspects, but they aren't medical.
What I'm saying is that our mindsets can be changed...however, it's a process, and for many of us it's a constant struggle. Information and options is the key. We gain that through research and asking questions and gaining some hope...realising that it's not all or nothing.
I agree with you. I was on medication years ago for depression and anxiety. Got rid of the depression, but still have anxiety on occasion. The person that helped me told me that...if you can somehow replace a negative with a positive it might help. It helped me. That's why I suggested it.