After i noticed i was rectally bleeding, i was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis back in February of this year. I also noticed extreme changes in bowel habits.
My partner has been so understanding, but he is a very calm and loving man anyway. I often get very bloated feelings, together with aching joints and severe tiredness. I find it hard to sleep now because i get severe temperature increases in the body and the worst part of UC is that you never know when you need a toilet and sometimes it is very hard to have a bowel movement for days.
My doctor put me on Sulfasalazine tablets which seem to have improved the number of flare ups i have and i have started to take cod liver oil capsules and calcium tablets to help with the joint problems.
I often feel i have mood swings and actually took a bit of time off work because i was depressed and felt out of control with my own body.
I think all you can do is be there for your husband and tell him that your feelings for him are exactly the same as before he was diagnosed. Because of the nature of the illness, it is quite often embarrasing and it gives such an insecure feeling. Accepting the illness takes a while and i have only just begun to come to terms with it.
You are obviously a very caring person and i am sure, given time, he will begin to accept things because you are prepared to learn and support him. Good luck and i wish you well.