Dave, sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. Glad we are here to let you vent. We all come with baggage from our life (I always joke to my kids that I am giving them something to talk about in therapy). Don't dwell on what type of child you were, be proud of the man you have become. I've never even met you but I can tell you would be someone I would want as a friend! Who knows why your parents act disinterested. It is not you, it is them.
I have a very good relationship with my in-laws. However 16 years ago my husband fell off a ladder. He was leaking spinal fluid. The doctors gave it 10 days and said they would prep for an operation on the 11th day. Miraculously the spinal fluid stopped leaking on the 10th day. My in-laws never came to visit him in the hospital (although my sister-in-law was there alot). They never came by to see how I was doing or check on the grandkids (2-1/2 and 7 months old at the time). My mom came by everyday to either watch the kids so I could go to the hospital or she would spend time at the hospital with my husband. The weekend before the doctors were going to make a decision about surgery, my mom called my brother and sister from out of town to come see my husband. (Who knew how the surgery would go?) I know my in-laws didn't think my husband was a bad kid. They just chose to ignore the danger he was facing. They never understood the severity of his accident.
I am sure Mandy knows that your actions are not really you right now. In a moment of calm, just let her know how much you appreciate her strength.
I hope you feel better very soon. Lots of hugs for you!!
--Mom of bratcat (16 years old)--
bratcat was diagnosed with pancolitis October 2006
Asacol - 4 pills/3Xday
Rowasa - 7/07 tapering slowly
hydrocortisone enema - alternating with Rowasa; 3/3/07 - began to taper off hydrocortisone sloowwly! No more hydrocortisone enemas!
11/14/06 - started prednisone; 1/28/07 - finished prednisone!
Keeping our fingers and toes crossed!!