Don't get down. This is something you can work through. At the time things happen it's terrifying but thinking back I laugh at some things I've been through. Here's some interesting times...
Before meeting my wife I asked this girl out to a movie. That went okay but in dropping her off I had to use her bathroom. She had a small condo--I really stunk that place up bad and made lots of noise. I remember searching her cabinets for spray. I told her it must have been something I ate. (she probably thought, "what did he eat, rotton fish guts?"
On our second date I asked her to a concert (Grover Washington Jr.). In the middle of the thing I had to go again (now's she's probably wondering if I have a problem). I left the concert hall for the bathroom and "NO!" a line. By the time I got to the can I had messed my pants. I hid the messey underware behind the toilet and returned to the date. After the 3rd or 4th date I told her about
my problems and it went a lot smoother.
In college I messed my pants at a party. I was too embarrassed to confess my troubles (I also had a date) so I went into the bedroom of the host and swiped two pair of his clean underwear. I cleaned up with one pair and changed into the second. I was going to sneak the now two pairs of dirty underwear out but I heard my date calling my name and coming my way. All I could think to do was to quickly wad up the messy underwear and hide them behind a dresser. I hate to think of the mess someone had to clean up.
I have two girls now--they understand more than my wife. I've marked my territory at Yellowstone, Statue of Liberty, on ski slopes, Disney World, on Bourbon Street, NY subway, probably in every state of the US by now. I have yet to travel overseas to mark portions of Europe but I'm planning a trip soon.
Tip of the day: When squatting down to go make sure your shoes are clearly out of harms way