You may eventually want to change your perspective....for denial doesn't change the reality of the situation. I'm not a huge proponent for high med dosages....but your fragility says you need to up it a bit. Remember, 5ASA meds can also protect you from precancer and cancer.
Look at it this way......a slow simmer of inflammation is FAR WORSE (I'm only emphasising..not yelling)....because it's not bad enough for you to listen.
Your acceptance should be of the fact that you have a chronic illness...not that it's OK as it is.
You're still focussing on food....so in fact you've replaced the worst of your fears with another aspect which is more obvious.
It's not coffee or soda or fried foods......it's because you have low inflammation and fragility.
My take on this....and I've been there.