You initially said "It's going to be very stressful on me and emotionally hard to be there alone" you seem to forget my friend, you are not alone and you never will be, I know you have made close friends here already but you maybe havent realised just how many friends here you have actually made all over the world and we are only ever a click away.
Remember when you first became ill with uc what a roller coaster ride it seems, I guess it'll be similar in a way. but we were there for you then and are now!!!! You know where our email addresses are, so anytime you need to chat to anyone in private then you do it, I personally will be there should you need to talk.
Mandy and I split in 96 for just over 6 months (she told me to leave), unfortunately even though I had close friends around me, I wasn't used to being alone and instead of finding myself, I put all my time and effort into wining Mandy's heart back, eventually I succeeded and it wasn't for a long time that I realised how foolish I had been to fail to get to know myself. I am dedicated to my marriage because I believe it's important to put your 100% into everything you do and wedding vows should be protected, but I know that we had split for a reason and I certainly did not grasp the opportunities that were right there before me.
I often wonder how much longer my marriage has, because all we ever do is argue and as I said previously I didn't find myself when we spit, maybe had I done and had I not been so afraid to be on my own, I would have made a different life for me but who knows???
I don't think you will find the seperation easy as I'm sure noone would and I'm confident you will lose some tears, but that my friend is nothing more than the recovery/healing process, you must keep yourself as active as possible and set up certain times during the day where you can think about
what you have achieved and of course allow any feelings to come out.
Always here. take care and keep talking do not bottle things up, you will come through this as you have many other obstacles life has thrown your way.
ps Safe journeys to you -- make sure and let us know that you've arrived safely.
Dansky Co-moderator UC forum
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Post Edited (Dansky) : 10/29/2007 8:54:46 PM (GMT-6)