Moving to Montana

Hello everyone

  I'm leaving Thursday for Seeley Lake, Montana. I'll be staying there at least through the winter. My husband and I (actually he brought it up) are taking a break and he can't leave here because of his business. So, I'm packing up all my stuff, one of my horses and dog and hitting the road. Thursday night I'll be staying at a bed and breakfast in Idaho that boards horses.... .crap, I forgot to ask about the dog. I'll have to call her and ask if the dog can stay as well.

  I don't know anyone really where my cabin is.. I mean, I know a couple of people, but not very much since we haven't gone up there too often since we bought it two years ago. It's going to be very stressful on me and emotionally hard to be there alone, but my hubby thinks that absence will make the heart grow fonder..... maybe it will...  I actually have a job interview on Saturday at a pretty fancy lodge near my cabin, maybe I can get a part time job there and make some friends that way.

  I've never been alone before... I'm trying to look at this in a positive way...

  

LOL... No kidding about the climate change Q... Yikes! It sure does get cold there. I'm not as worried about me as I am my horse. She has never been in Sub-Zero Temps before. At least I have a barn she can get out of the weather in and I will be blanketing her until she get's a nice fuzzy winter coat... (if she does)...  This whole thing is for the best, I know it is, but the hardest part for me besides traveling with a horse that far, is living alone and not really knowing anyone. BUT, with my WONDERFUL personality...LOL.. I hope to be making new friends fast. I will have DSL at my cabin, and will be bringing my ol' trusty laptop, so you bet, I'll be keeping in touch and posting probably more than I have in a while... LOL..  I am also thinking of starting a blog someplace so I can keep a diary of my travels and experiences... Might be fun to look at someday in the future after I get past this part of my life.

   As far as that Turkey Leg bone, I've got a pretty firm hold and will be giving it my best shot!! 

Good to hear from you! I think you'll do great in Montana! Sounds like you've got a good plan laid out and you're ready for the change. Yup, change is always hard. But you'l have your faithful, every loving companions - dog and horse - with you :) Hang in there! And let us know how you're doing :)

Hey Susie, take it from this girl here -- being alone and getting your thoughts together is an awesome thing. Helps to get things in perspective and maybe you just might be surprised to find "Susie" again. I can't tell you the amount of times just this weekend I was feeling alone, but it really made me step back again and reevaluate what I really want in life, this of course came after some pretty good tears, but really you emerge stronger. Sometimes you just need that break for awhile. You are an awesome lady, and will not have any problem making friends. Go with strength my friend; this truly is a great thing for you. You know where to find me if you need to talk....

ps Safe journeys to you -- make sure and let us know that you've arrived safely.

Susie,

You initially said "It's going to be very stressful on me and emotionally hard to be there alone" you seem to forget my friend, you are not alone and you never will be, I know you have made close friends here already but you maybe havent realised just how many friends here you have actually made all over the world and we are only ever a click away.

Remember when you first became ill with uc what a roller coaster ride it seems, I guess it'll be similar in a way. but we were there for you then and are now!!!! You know where our email addresses are, so anytime you need to chat to anyone in private then you do it, I personally will be there should you need to talk.

Mandy and I split in 96 for just over 6 months (she told me to leave), unfortunately even though I had close friends around me, I wasn't used to being alone and instead of finding myself, I put all my time and effort into wining Mandy's heart back, eventually I succeeded and it wasn't for a long time that I realised how foolish I had been to fail to get to know myself. I am dedicated to my marriage because I believe it's important to put your 100% into everything you do and wedding vows should be protected, but I know that we had split for a reason and I certainly did not grasp the opportunities that were right there before me.

I often wonder how much longer my marriage has, because all we ever do is argue and as I said previously I didn't find myself when we spit, maybe had I done and had I not been so afraid to be on my own, I would have made a different life for me but who knows???

I don't think you will find the seperation easy as I'm sure noone would and I'm confident you will lose some tears, but that my friend is nothing more than the recovery/healing process, you must keep yourself as active as possible and set up certain times during the day where you can think about what you have achieved and of course allow any feelings to come out.

Always here. take care and keep talking do not bottle things up, you will come through this as you have many other obstacles life has thrown your way.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Susie hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Dave

ps Safe journeys to you -- make sure and let us know that you've arrived safely.

Good luck Susie, embrace your adventure and enjoy it as much as you can!!!
James

Susie,

That's the wonderful thing about this forum, regardless of how long you spend away, you are always part of the family and welcomed back with big open arms.

You know we'll all be thinking about you on Thursday and wishing we could be there to help you through the tough times but just maybe knowing we are all thinking about you with such caring thoughts and respect everything will go smoothly for you.

Take care.

Dave

Susie,

Great to see you arrived safely, catch up on your rest and then go and get that job

Take care.

Dave

Hello again everyone! I went on my first horseback ride today and it was excellent! At first my mare was a total butthead, I brought her here to my place today and she's alone now and having a bit of a hard time.... I know horses are herd animals, and she has never been alone until today. She's calming down a little after we rode, and I'm sure she'll be fine in a day or two. I'm going to ride her everyday so she get's plenty of excersize and that will also help her cope with being alone. There are other horses nearby though and she can communicate with them verbally.. and she does... LOL... I started a blog for those of you who want to check it out, I've only posted 3 times on it and there's a picture of me and my horse with the lady in Idaho who runs the horsie hotel... It was the nicest place I've stayed in!

Check out the blog at http://montanasusie@blogspot.com

Post Edited By Moderator (Loneylane) : 11/4/2007 9:30:39 PM (GMT-7)

Hi Susie...If the mare ain't happy...no one's happy..lol!
Hope she comes around soon....

I can't seem to open your blog or even cut and paste or add www......Carol..help?

quincy

Glad you made it safely and are starting your new adventure Susie!!!
James

Hey Susie; first off, glad that you made it safely. Secondly, you are going through the hardest time right now of being apart...so take some deep breaths and remember why you made the trip. You are missing the "comfortable" times, but you need time to sort things through. Ask yourself right now if it would be easier to go back to the "norm" or would it be better to think things through? Good that you started the blog; journeling is an excellent way to deal with your thoughts. It sounds already like the time apart is doing you both good, and I'm happy that your hubby has agreed to counseling. I love that you are able to get out and ride your horse -- what better therapy can you get! I hope she settles down; I'm sure this is a trying time for both of you. Take care my friend, you are in my thoughts.

Yes, Quincy....very good point on the counseling. What's the old saying, "Actions speak louder than words?"